Hi I am looking for some advice. I went out with a woman (49) who I met through a dating site. From the minute we met it was intense. We fell in love, texting and calling numerous times a day. This lasted 5 months with her coming to see me or vice versa on the weekends as we lived an hour apart. She told me she loved me daily. Said I was her soul mate and wished she had had her kids with me. I loved her kids both in their twentys. All seemed great. However when she was home she would say she would call and then vanish sometimes until the next day. Other times she would say call only to be not home. But then we would see each other and she would be fine, say all the right things and not want to leave. 3 weeks ago I took her away for the weekend when we came back she left saying the same things, I love you, I feel like a piece of me is missing etc.3 days later I break my leg, I call her for help and her response is I have to clean my apartment. 2 days later she broke up with me no reason and no responses to calls an emails. I must point out she drank a bottle of wine almost daily while taking antidepressants. I worshipped her everyday. I even held her lounger in the pool so she could get the last rays of the day. Cooked for her, massaged her, I did everything for her. I'm in shock and feel lost,angry, sad. Any advice would be helpful I haven't ate in days.

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Sorry it took a broken leg for you to find out she wasn't the one, so while your leg is healing, let your heart heal to and get back on line, and try your luck again. Hopefully you will find one that matches good words, with good actions.

Start dating again.

This time, hold your horses. What is it you are looking for?

Make sure. Suss it out carefully. Slowly.

"I must point out she drank a bottle of wine almost daily while taking antidepressants"

Back to the drawing board.

Good luck. You will back on your feet in no time.

I am going through a breakup myself. I feel your pain--- we're lost, confused, sleep deprived and hungry too :-/

I don't have great advice for you on this relationship. I wish I did and I'm sorry about that.

I do think you need to first go slower in your relationships. When it starts so fast and intense, it often fizzles away fast.

But the best advice I think I can give you is to not rely on the words that your girlfriends say to you and rely on the actions they carry out to show you how much they actually love you.

It is easy to say I love you, but it is not easy to go out of your way to DO things for your loved one.

Good luck.