I am 20,we are a couple for 8 months... he is loving and caring,all is okay... but for his helping and caring attitude he is quite popular with females .Before our commitment he used to get proposals from girls quite often and our pals were loud about that fact too.he had link-ups with almost 7 other girls of my batch(most were fake though)

Now... he does not flirt with girls.. but he is friendly.. and sometimes I just don't like it when he posts something like"welcome back madam,tou look great on the profile-pic" to some childhood female friend.It reminds me of the guys who tries to flirt with me and starts with"madam...".He chats with the girls over the phone even when I am with him(occasionaly sends couple of sms's to some gals at 2 am too).I know he is just friends with the girls but I can't help thinking he could do less friendly stuffs... I just feel bad when he chats with his female friends or posts things like these on Facebook .I also hate to listen about fake link-up's about him with other girls.And personally I don't like some of his female fans though he hadn't formally introduced me to any of them.

I can't be too clear about it to him because it will make me appear selfish.Am I being too fussy or is there really something to worry about?

I think you have a preview of what it will be like if you stay with him, and I doubt he changes. Talk and see, but its up to you if you can handle his ways or NOT.

If it bothers you, say something. If he isn't willing to work with you to resolve this to the benefit of you both, what's the point?

It doesn't seem like he's hiding anything. He's a flirty guy with female friends. Call them ego boosters.

And call them a little less than stellar in the scruples department too. What kind of girl flirts at 3 a.m. via text, with another girls' man. I think if they had the stuff of relationships, they'd each have their own going on, and wouldn't have to bother with somebody else's.

That being said, I presume he knows it bothers you. It would bother me as well. That he sees nothing wrong with what he's doing, and disregards how you feel (surely he must have given your feelings a little thought, before he decided to mix it up with other girls?), that would be the bigger problem for me.

There are certain things that any successful couple need, in order to build a future together. The biggest one is trust, and communication, and being considerate of your partner's feelings. Always putting the other first, and not having any doubt as to their honesty and comittment.

If he cannot see that his flirting/texting with other girls, is not very condusive to contributing to a healthy relationship with you, then what are you going to do about it.

He may stop the behaviour, at least in front of you, but can you trust that he will understand why you are upset, and then feel stupid that he was doing it in the first place? Or will he stop and be resentful, or consider you to be controlling and jealous.

But you won't know, until you talk this out. Better to invest a little time now instead of turning a blind eye, or being resentful. If it bothers you, it bothers you. He should have more than just stopping the calls/contact with other girls- he needs to understand why it is inappropriate in any serious relationoship.

You got with him. That's your decision.

He hasn't really changed. Hes still the same, but now he's got a girlfriend.

Have you let him know how this bothers you?

If he doesn't treat you like you want to be treated, & understand what's its like to be in a relationship, well, that's again your decision.

Why did you get with him in the first place? That's the real question.

Why did he get with you?