So I'm 17 years old and about a week ago I got out of a 2 year relationship. This relationship wasn't the greatest but I was in love. We had rough times but over this past summer it was amazing. As soon as school started though he started to treat me really bad. He ditched me all the time and would ignore me sometimes for his friends. I put up with it and stayed with him through it hoping he would change.

But the one day last week him and I had plans to hang out after school. So I called him after school and he was like why don't we just hang out later and you can stay over or something. And this doesn't seem like a big deal really but if you knew how he was then you'd know that it was. So I finally said it was enough and told him I was done and then ignored him all day.

That same day, I meant another guy. And I really never expected it to turn out like this but it did. But as soon as the first guy realized that I didn't care anymore he started to care. And now that he knows I am talking to someone else he really wants me back. He cries to me and tries everything he can. But this kid that I meant is the sweetest. He treats me so good and does everything for me. I can trust him and I have a lot of fun with him.

But whenever I think about my boyfriend of two years I still get sick to my stomach sometimes and cry and sometimes when I'm laying there with the second boy I think about the first and it doesn't feel right. But then at other times it feels perfect. And I really have no idea which one to choose. I don't know what to do. I'm so confused over this... Please help.

Sweetheart, you feel this way as it's too soon to move on. You need to work on self healing before you consider a new relationship.

A once heard that it takes about half the amount of time you were together, to get over that person. Now that IS rather a lot, but I'd at least give it a few months. Concentrate on school, and go out with your mates.

X Dani

I think you got with the new guy before you got the old one out of your system. You didn't take time for a proper healing.

What you have to do is slow down and take time, and be honest about it with the new guy. That at least will give you time to clear up old feelings by doing fun things with friends and family and activities.

Then you can start fresh, and ENJOY the new guy all the time. I am not saying dump him, but have a healthy balance of other things you enjoy, besides him.