Klady
Oct 12, 2011, 03:41 AM
Moved, AND edited to its own Question/T
I feel like my guy friend is playing games with me sometimes, yet sometimes I do feel that he is genuine. My problem is that I can't seem to stop the contact with him. If I don't hear from him in a while, I feel such a strong urge to send a text or call him. It's like a cat & mouse game. He texts, I reply. I text, he doesn't always reply.
It seems like he's too busy for me sometimes, but when he wants to text or call, he does it well. It seems to be on his time & terms though. Lately we rarely see one another. How do I break this habit?
We have casually dated on & off for over a year now. He lives close by & I want more from him. He told me early on that he wanted to build a relationship with me, but after 5 months he cooled down & now we occasionally talk as friends. We were sexually involved so that makes it all the worse. I do feel a special love for him, but I feel like I am doing most of the work.
My question is this... do I tell him anything or just disappear off his radar? Do I cut it cold, or somehow tell him that I can't keep continuing to have these feelings for him or wait for him to decide when he wants to see me or not.
I don't know if he is seeing others or not. We are both middle aged, and he has his elderly mom living with him. He has been divorced twice & has had relationships over the years. He says I am stronger than he is, & he feels insecure so that's why he cooled things down, yet he wants to remain a friend to me.
I want & need more from him because of my feelings. But I don't want to lose him out of my life, but I can't keep going in this cycle either. I need advice as to what to do now? Tell him, or just disappear off his radar & let him wonder?
I'm afraid if I do that, he may think I don't care anymore or that I am not true to my word. Yet he can go weeks without any contact, or sometimes just not reply to my messages. Please any advice would be helpful. Thank you
I feel like my guy friend is playing games with me sometimes, yet sometimes I do feel that he is genuine. My problem is that I can't seem to stop the contact with him. If I don't hear from him in a while, I feel such a strong urge to send a text or call him. It's like a cat & mouse game. He texts, I reply. I text, he doesn't always reply.
It seems like he's too busy for me sometimes, but when he wants to text or call, he does it well. It seems to be on his time & terms though. Lately we rarely see one another. How do I break this habit?
We have casually dated on & off for over a year now. He lives close by & I want more from him. He told me early on that he wanted to build a relationship with me, but after 5 months he cooled down & now we occasionally talk as friends. We were sexually involved so that makes it all the worse. I do feel a special love for him, but I feel like I am doing most of the work.
My question is this... do I tell him anything or just disappear off his radar? Do I cut it cold, or somehow tell him that I can't keep continuing to have these feelings for him or wait for him to decide when he wants to see me or not.
I don't know if he is seeing others or not. We are both middle aged, and he has his elderly mom living with him. He has been divorced twice & has had relationships over the years. He says I am stronger than he is, & he feels insecure so that's why he cooled things down, yet he wants to remain a friend to me.
I want & need more from him because of my feelings. But I don't want to lose him out of my life, but I can't keep going in this cycle either. I need advice as to what to do now? Tell him, or just disappear off his radar & let him wonder?
I'm afraid if I do that, he may think I don't care anymore or that I am not true to my word. Yet he can go weeks without any contact, or sometimes just not reply to my messages. Please any advice would be helpful. Thank you