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ihaterain
Oct 12, 2011, 07:44 AM
Hi
Well I have been in a long distance relationship with a girl for about 10 months.
It was always so perfect however recently she had some problems with her family and university and got very stressed and it was also during that time of the month.
She told me that she feels different about us and is overwhelmed and not sure what she wants and not sure if she wants a relationship. She said that maybe she doesn't love me as much as she did before.she asked me to give her a week not contacting her to allow her to think and I did that, once the week was over She said that I am the person she wants she just wants space so we are now not talking so much. Things seemed to be getting better but last night when she spoke she was very cold with me again and said that it was because she had lost the feeling of our relationship and that it would need time to come back. She said she will see how things are over the next few months. I really feel that things would be normal again soon if she wasn't being so cold with me, she says that there is nothing I have done sometimes this just happens and its really upsetting for me as I don't know what to think.
Its difficult for me as she is my world. I will give her all the time and space she needs. She is the first girl I have ever loved and the only girl I want to ever love. I know she will give it time and hopefully the feelings will return, but does anyone have any experience of this sort of thing? As I could use some advice.

talaniman
Oct 12, 2011, 04:04 PM
When a lady tells me she is unsure of her feelings for me, unsure about dating me, unsure how she feels about our relationship, I have always left them alone until they were. Either they figure it out and let you know, or they won't.

My point is enjoy doing your own thing, and let her figure it out and let you know. Don't let them love feelings get in the way of what she wants. This may be the first and only love you want, but means nothing if she doesn't want the same thing.

Leave her alone and let her figure herself out. Have fun until then.

vanheart
Oct 12, 2011, 04:14 PM
Giver her what she's asking for.

With long distance. You already have space. And she's asking for more.

You may want to read between the lines here.

Enjoy your life in the meantime. Without waiting. She doesn't want to wait.

She wants freedom.