So I have been dating this amazing girl for the past 2.5 years. However for professional reasons she had do a few rotations in California and out of the blue a few days ago after planning so many many things with her she just told me that she needs space to grow up (25 years old oh my! I don't know what she means but obviously means that she needs to explore other options(dating other people and all that) and she wanted a break.

On the phone she tells me that she does see herself with me in the future however I am not willing to give her that option since I just don't see it fair to be a back up plan.
Now as far as me I do have many things to offer I am not a looser so I really don't understand women right now I just don't .

I have been talking to my sister, mom and a few friend and they are telling just see her in a few weeks and really see what's going on in her head but my questions is should I go? Should I try again? I really don't want to feel like I am wasting my time with someone who is not willing to commit and keep going forward with life together

Should I go after her or just try to forget about everything it's hard but I believe I can move on it will take time . The thing that hurts me the most is that I have so many good moments with her and it really does not make any sense to me for her to make such a drastic and radical move.

I do believe she will regret this that's the problem but I don't know any more I am really confused

Any advice?

I think you do as she asks and do your own thing without her for now. Break ups suck, and often we need time and space ourselves to deal with our hurt, and disappointment. That's what I would do, cope with my feelings until rational calm thought returned, and then make a decision based on FACTS, and not just hurt feelings.

Leave her alone, and do as she asked. You will understand more later.

It does sound as though she wants to keep you 'safe' and yet have go off with other people with your permission. This is called 'having your cake and eating it'.. I would suggest that it's OK for her to do that as long as you can do the same. Obviously you're not going to wait for her to make her mind up, and the risk is that you might meet someone else.
She'll change her mind pretty quickly.. unless she's cheating on you anyway.

Thanks for the help and answers. I did get to see her a few days ago, and we were like nothing had happened -- we had a lot of love and good times. However, she is confused and really needs time and can't give me an answer as far as if she wants to be with me or not, but we will meet again in 4 weeks.

Obviously, the problem is that I think that by staying with me she thinks she will be making the decision to marry and move forward with everything. Maybe she has her doubts (not that I am not nice, however, there are many things she wants me to fix about myself me before moving forward). She tells me she sees a life with me in the future.

What you guys think should I really commit to? Should I change some stuff, or just drop it?
I don't know what is best

Commit to yourself. Partners make a commitment to each other to work together, not one working for the other. Its quite apparent that she has other things to do and wants to explore, so you let her and build your life around your own hopes and dreams, not around her.

She isn't confused, she knows she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you right now, and is doing her thing. Maybe she will want a second look later, because she knows you will be available, but for now she is making herself available for more and better options than you, and all the changes you make won't make a difference.

What will is you building a life without her, and pursue your OWN options, and opportunities. Not much can be gained by wasting time chasing an unwilling partner. Nor wasting time hoping she misses you and changes her mind. You have wrapped enough of yourself, and your life around this female, and its time to raise the bar and go for something more substantial, like a future for yourself, and an opportunity to find a partner that you don't have to change for, and WANTS to work with you.

This one does NOT!