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helenaharbuck
Oct 6, 2011, 05:18 PM
My son is listed as father on collins birth certificate collin being the child who will be 2 dec 24. My son joshua never married collins mother. They did live together for a short time. Then they broke up and she uses the baby to get my son to pay her auto insurance and for money here and there. At first they agreed he would just buy the things she said collin needed and pay the insurance and she wouldn't take it to child support recovery " he heard child support recovery was a bad place to get mixed up with" anyway Collin was born with Hemophilla the worst type there is. For those that don't know Hemophilla is where he don't stop bleeding on his own. He has to have an IV that clots it and makes it stop so he has to be watched close to make sure he don't get hurt if he does you have to have his Factor on hand and take him to the er where they give it and it stops it. After he is a certain age they begin training his parents and grandparents how to administer the I've with out the trip to the er. But in collins case his doctor first ordered him to have this factor I've 2 times a week they said if he didn't he could have crippling arthritis before he was the age 10 but the doctor reduced it to once a week. Remember he is only a baby still and he has to take this I've whether he wants to or not to help his body to get the factor in his system. Collin and his parents lived with me prior to birth then after birth giving me access to watch after him and care for him and grow closer to him. And when they did move out they just moved across the street still giving me that baby sitting duty. His mom got her a part time job and was bringing collin over and would leave him at first 3days because she worked at night. Then she decided she was going on vacation leaving him with me over a week strait. And even after she came back she would call on Wednesday I would pick him up he would stay till early Monday morning and she would take him to where she was staying. She then became homeless till her stepdad made arrangements to let her stay in his mothers home she was to pay rent lights and water and she had a home. But after a couple months she began borrowing money from lots of people and would blow her work check as soon as she would get it. Me and my husband provided most of collins cloths since birth and most of his infancy furniture diapers etc. She first had collins factor set to take place at her mothers on mondays. Then she changed it to tuesdays because it interfered with her some how. And at first she was good about being there and letting him take it. But we also got his book that the nurses gave that has information about hemophilia and pages that were made up for a month to month I've journal and to make notes of any bumps or bruises and on the calendar there is a place to put stickers off the I've bottles showing he had it. But when I got the book she had skipped a week here and there since February 2011 but she had skipped 5 straight weeks blaming it on her home situation. But how hard can it be to take him to his other grandparents home where the nurse comes and does it. Anyway after the 5th week the Hemophilia Hospital called my son asking about collin and he gave me the info to call so I made the arrangements for the nurse to come to my home on thursdays which didn't go to well with collins mom but they needed a stable home for him to do it in and he and I have a special bond and this is for his well being not for fun so I made it happen here. Anyway in between all this she has been threatening my son with child support recovery because he finally dropped her car insurance which left her mad then she tells my son he can come get him and waits two days then storms her claiming he kidnapped him from her. But the day she told my son to come get him we learned she not only was homeless but she lost her weekend job and he found out she also has a drug problem no its not from friends and relatives talking about her but he knows the people she been running with and he to back when he was 14 had the same problem and caused some problems so he knew the signs way to well to ignore them and did ignore them till he caught them in the act I am speaking of them using meth and god knows what else. Anyway she also finally admitted to her mom and step dad after losing about 15 or 20 pounds that she had been doing it but claimed she was quitting. So my son had reason for taking his son out that house she was at. Because they were in the middle of it while collin was in the next room crying his eyes out. My son brought collin to me where he stayed 7days before she came saying she would have my son arrested for kidnapping if he didn't give collin back. But joshua didn't want to because he felt collin mite get hurt that's when we learned he really didn't have no say in it because they were never married and until he gets the court to order a dna all he can do is bow to her if she lets him see him or not. My son don't make a lot of money he has been working for a temp company which informed him today his project was complete that he will have to start looking for more work some where. So that puts a hold on him filing anything. But he is determined to get collin away from her. So that's where I guess I come in at. And the reason I'm here is to ask after you read all this and believe me I'm skipping most just to keep it from being so long to explain what who how and when and to ask what do I have to do to get temporary custody of collin or can I ? And maybe point me in the direction I need to so I can try to get it started. Anyway collin has been here with since Tuesday this week. Joshua called and asked her when does he get to see him again and at first she demanded him to put the insurance back on her car and he refused she began swearing at him and said he couldn't see him again and of course the famous child support recovery was throwed up. But he told her go on do it he was tired of threats then she texts saying come get him she was going to kill herself she had no where to go blah blah blah so he goes and gets collin. Anyway if you could give me some sort of ideal what I need to do and where to do it or if I'm waisting my time I would appreciate it. My name is helena I live in bremen, Ga

ScottGem
Oct 6, 2011, 06:54 PM
WAY too much info. First, your son made a mistake by not going to court for custody. And being GA it was a big mistake not to get a child support program setup. This makes it easy for the mother to file criminal charges of child abandonment.

I would not go for custody at this time. I would first try for guardianship. This is similar, but easier to get.

I would also recommend consulting an attorney to manage this for you. Document everything, keep a journal. But based on what little I read of your long-winded (sorry) story, I think you stand a good chance. Clearly, Collin needs attentive care and clearly the parents are not prepared to provide it.

helenaharbuck
Oct 7, 2011, 01:55 PM
Thank you for taking time to answer my long winded story, I put out there so whom ever read it would understand where I was coming from with it. So any way I thank you very much. And will contact me a lawyer today

ScottGem
Oct 7, 2011, 02:58 PM
I think we could have understood with a lot less detail. Basically you want to have custody of your hemophiliac grandchild because his parents are not being responsible about his care.

JudyKayTee
Oct 7, 2011, 03:03 PM
If the mother is unfit and your son is able to care for the child why doesn't he petition the Court, prove her to be unfit, get custody and live with you?

Getting custody is a lot less complicated when there are medical problems which are not being addressed.

Is there DNA proof that your son is the father?

helenaharbuck
Oct 7, 2011, 04:42 PM
Well my son got laid off his job so the filing fee's he can't pay and no there's not been a dna test to prove he is his but he believes it with his whole heart that he is. And I have just these past couple days have been learning about ga law and the dna testing who how and where to go to get it started. I didn't know if I had to do all that just to get custody or not. And sorry my post was dramatic but I didn't want to sound like some granma wanting to take the kid with cause so I told it. Anyway sorry it was so much.

JudyKayTee
Oct 7, 2011, 06:41 PM
You sound concerned - sometimes AMHD is a good place to get it all out.

Your son NEEDS to have DNA testing performed. Court costs should be minimal. A child's life is at stake. He should figure out how to raise the money.