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lovelybroken
Oct 6, 2011, 03:52 AM
My ex fiancé cheated on me with my brothers ex wife. She claims to have thought we broke up, but I hate her now. Him on the other hand just moved on, like it was my fault.

I did everything for him, including half the time if not more, supporting him financially, cleaning the house after work, cooking dinner, seeing him off with lunch for work, sex everyday, if not every other day. I don't understand what's wrong with me.

He also, come to find out, slept with his ex girlfriend, the first two weeks we were together. It seems to be a pattern because a month after he hurt me, in a moment of weakness, I slept with him, even though what a shocker, he already had a new girlfriend. I thought I was more important.

He goes around telling everyone I took the ring and ran. He pawned my engagement ring for drug money, which he got started on after I wouldn't talk to him. I ran I left? I just want to cry, and I've felt very sad, and bottled up. I have tried talking about it, but it doesn't help. I try crying alone, everything, I don't know what's wrong with me. I thought I was more important to him. I was suppose to be his wife thank god that didn't happen, ugh! I just don't know, I need to cry, and can't.


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talaniman
Oct 6, 2011, 11:38 AM
I feel your pain, and I can tell you it takes a long time to recover from being dogged out by a selfish idiot, who really never deserved your heart, nor never knew what to do with it.

All I can do is give you a big cyber hug, >CYBER HUG<, and reassure you that eventually, in time, it will get better. Have some good friends with shoulders to cry on?

vanheart
Oct 6, 2011, 04:34 PM
Cry away, Go ahead. Get as much support as you can.

Sucks, royally, but now you know what kind of guy he is.

You don't need that. Disgusting.

Dump his a$$. Be glad to be rid of that disrespect, once & for all.

Move on to better people.

Go NC. Don't talk, or let him try & suck you back. And god forbid, don't sleep w/him again.

You will never be #1.

We all live & learn. Use this lesson for later.

Charlie0x
Oct 6, 2011, 08:35 PM
The first few months are the hardest. You're ex fiancé sounds like a jerk, and it is very good you separated with him when you did. Now that you are free of him you are able to have your own life, which I suggest you begin. Time heals everything. I know you really don't want to hear that and you think it's a stupid cliché saying, but its so true, and one day you will see. If you move on with your life things will pick up. He was not a good person, judging by the description, I mean he sleeps with girls other than the woman he is supposed to be devoted to, and pawns engagement rings for drug money? Not cool. Ok, so its been four months. In a year I swear the majority of the sadness will be gone. If all else fails I suggest counselor because it may be a type of depression. I hope someone can help you more than I can.
Charlotte