Ok my problem with girls is I cannot text them first, and I don't know why. I hate the feeling of just texting them first. I met a really really attractive girl in college and we hung out twice and both times we got drunk. She invited me back to her room both times and all we did was talk on her bed for like 3 hours. And she told me like 300 times that she really needs to get to know people in order to start talking to them. And I told her my problem is texting girls first. She texted for about a week and then stopped. I didn't really care sense its college and there's more girls out there but then she talked to my room mate and asked him why I've been acting different. Anyway we kind of got into an argument, but we got over it and we are hanging out again and its better than ever. She always tickles me, and punches my arm and stuff like that. Ill tell her if she punches me ill punch her (in a flirting way) and she'll punch me. I think its because she wants me to touch her but I could be wrong. Anyway, my problem is... every time she's on Facebook she's always saying how hot these random guys are. So does she like me or doesn't she? Because if I liked a girl I wouldn't just sit there and say how hot girls are. Another problem is every time I go and say goodbye she just says bye. No sign of she wants a kiss, or a hug, or anything. So I just leave with an empty feeling. What should I do? And how do you think she feels about me?

And she told me like 300 times that she really needs to get to know people in order to start talking to them.

How do you get to know someone without talking to them? Or am i misunderstanding something here?

Is there any particular reason you don't like texting first? You feel like you're pestering them or something?

It does indeed sound like she likes you, I'm basing that on the young college flirtiness. I was like that when i was young(er). The Facebook thing could possibly be a cry for attention to you. You may be sending out mixed signals yourself. And instead of waiting for a sign to hug her, just do it! It should be easier to figure out where you stand after that.

X Dani

To: DaniCalifornia

See the thing is though is she is a really outgoing girl. IDK if she's just being friendly with the punches and tickling or not. And when she calls a guy hot I ask her how she thinks he's hot and she'll go into great detail about him. And when I said she told me like 300 times she really needs to get to know people in order to start talking to them, I meant like talking more than friends. I mean, its been probably a month since we first started talking, and there's been progress but the most I've ever done physically with her is tickle her knees. Cause she's really jumpy if I like go to touch her arm or something. It seems as if she's defensive. Honestly if I had to give you my opinion, it's that she doesn't like me... but the little things she does like the way she looks at me tells me she does. IM SO CONFUSEDDD :(

The tickle her knees bit made me giggle.

If I were you, if you really like her, to simply ask how she feels, and whether she feels you can take it further. If not, just forget it and continue to have fun as friends.

X Dani

Instead of texting, why don't you call instead?

Assuming this is your feedback, I have to ask why you feel our advice is unhelpful?

It doesn't matter how she conducts her Facebook, or if she likes you or not. All that matters is having fun getting to know each other, and that can take some time.

The thing you are missing is you are spending that time, so enjoy it without all these other problems. That's what dating is all about. As you learn to communicate, you will, but let me warn you of pushing to hard, to fast, as many females prefer to be comfortable, but not EASY.

Have some confidence and show her a great time and see where it leads. Its only been a month.

Calling and talking is better than texting, but texting is an easier thing to do. Not as effective though when meeting someone. A lot is lost in words over a screen.

Make sure you stay balanced in your social life, and have many other options for fun than JUST her. That would NOT be healthy, nor the thing to do to get attached to fast until you know more. Relax, stop worrying, and enjoy it, but don't get carried away, or disappointed if she is a mystery right now. That's a female charm we guys love.

Kisses after a date mean nothing at this point. You just want one. Don't worry about that either.

The reason I marked unhelpful is because she's not the type of girl that I can just open up right away. Its only been a month and I'm waiting for the right moment. And if that means I have to wait another month than so be it. And its not like we text all the time. She lives a room down from me. But when were not with each other were texting.

Oh and I don't want to be rude... I do appreciate you guys for helping me! It does mean a lot even though I don't know you guys haha but it's a lot of help just talking about it and getting other peoples insight

The reason I marked unhelpful is because she's not the type of girl that I can just open up right away

Then why not elaborate on that instead of marking our reputation down.

Im sorry I didn't know that pressing the unhelpful thing brings down your reputation! I'm new to this I'm sorry!

No worries. For the future, you can ask us more questions if you're not satisfied, if you like. We're here to help!

Unless of course the answer you got IS unhelpful, but that usually means that someone isn't taking the question seriously, or their advice is completely irrelevant.

X Dani

We've been spending a lot more time together the past 3 days. Now she's in my hometown. But still no kisses/hugs. Nothing that can show me that she wants to be more than friends. But she's always toughing me in a flirting way.

That's because she isn't sure about you, or your intentions. What she should just take your word for being a good guy and open up her heart to you? She will keep a safe emotional distance until she trusts you with her heart, and know what to do with it. Once you understand that, you will stop pushing for more, and let it flow the way it will.

Open yourself up first, as a man that is NOT afraid is confident, natural, cool, calm collected, and shows his strength by being able to deal with things in an efficient fashion, and that starts with his own discipline and self control. Females have a way of finding what's there inside a male, and if he is self confident, or not. And equally as important, are you smart enough to listen and pay attention. Be clear, not cater to her whims, but to her mind.

That's a lot of help! Thank you so much! I will let you know what happens next time I hangout with her which will either be some day on the weekend or Monday night!

Well guys and girls, I think it is pretty much done with. She hasn't talked to me besides small talk online (which I started) since Friday. Thank you for all the help!

What did you expect?

For her actually wanting to talk to me

Maybe she did, maybe she was willing, maybe you don't have much to talk about. Did you ask her out or anything?

Doesn't matter, you are single with many options so don't get stuck, or disappointed on one. Back in my day, we kept a little black book full of phone numbers, one doesn't work, move to the next one.