unsurebird
Oct 4, 2011, 11:02 PM
I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we have lived together for most of that time. I have always been aware of the fact that guys watch porn and fine with it. We have also watched porn together sometimes and I sometimes watch it alone. I have no issues with my boyfriend watching porn, which I know he does and probably masturbates to. That's all cool.
However, a few months back I saw in the computer history that this one webcam site had been frequently visited, so I began checking the history every now and then to see how often my boyfriend visited this site. Wasn't really bothered at this stage, just a little curious about what he was up to. Recently when I checked the computer history and clicked on one of the addresses, it took me straight to my boyfriend?s webcam site account and although I do not know his password, I can access his account through that link, so I can see when he?s last logged on, who he's been watching and how much money is on the account. I have discovered that in the past few weeks he has visited this site nearly all the nights I?m at work, so approx 4-5 times a week. He also spends money on this site and probably spent at least 50$ on it the past couple of weeks, could be more, I'm not sure. He seems to look at lots of different girls and couples also. They do not see him, he doesn't?t have a webcam.
I'm not really sure how to feel about this, a part of me thinks it's something I shouldn't worry about, that it's just porn and I should just let it be. BUT another part of me feels a little hurt and concerned, as he most likely is not just watching but chatting to these girls also. And he visits the site even after we've had sex.. I wonder if there's something missing in our relationship? If he's unhappy with our sex life? Am I inadequate? He says he is happy in our relationship and with our sex life, and personally I think we have a great sex life, we have sex mostly every day and we are quite open to trying out new stuff. The fact he is willing to spend money on it baffles me, as there is so much free stuff out there! I'm not sure whether he hasn't told me about this, because he wants to keep it as a personal thing, if he's embarrassed or think I wouldn't approve. Maybe all.
I know I'm going to need to talk to him about this, but trying to clear my head a little before I do that and hear what others think of the situation? Is chatting to naked girls online and watching them live common for guys to do? Should I think of it as just porn? Why is he spending money on this? Is this a big red warning flag or just quite normal male behaviour? I think what concerns me the most is that a) he actually interacts with these girls, although it's a "fake" world, b) he pays for the service c) he visits the site very frequently (in my opinion at least... ).
I would really appreciate thoughts from you blokes out there and others with similar experiences. Thanks in advance!
However, a few months back I saw in the computer history that this one webcam site had been frequently visited, so I began checking the history every now and then to see how often my boyfriend visited this site. Wasn't really bothered at this stage, just a little curious about what he was up to. Recently when I checked the computer history and clicked on one of the addresses, it took me straight to my boyfriend?s webcam site account and although I do not know his password, I can access his account through that link, so I can see when he?s last logged on, who he's been watching and how much money is on the account. I have discovered that in the past few weeks he has visited this site nearly all the nights I?m at work, so approx 4-5 times a week. He also spends money on this site and probably spent at least 50$ on it the past couple of weeks, could be more, I'm not sure. He seems to look at lots of different girls and couples also. They do not see him, he doesn't?t have a webcam.
I'm not really sure how to feel about this, a part of me thinks it's something I shouldn't worry about, that it's just porn and I should just let it be. BUT another part of me feels a little hurt and concerned, as he most likely is not just watching but chatting to these girls also. And he visits the site even after we've had sex.. I wonder if there's something missing in our relationship? If he's unhappy with our sex life? Am I inadequate? He says he is happy in our relationship and with our sex life, and personally I think we have a great sex life, we have sex mostly every day and we are quite open to trying out new stuff. The fact he is willing to spend money on it baffles me, as there is so much free stuff out there! I'm not sure whether he hasn't told me about this, because he wants to keep it as a personal thing, if he's embarrassed or think I wouldn't approve. Maybe all.
I know I'm going to need to talk to him about this, but trying to clear my head a little before I do that and hear what others think of the situation? Is chatting to naked girls online and watching them live common for guys to do? Should I think of it as just porn? Why is he spending money on this? Is this a big red warning flag or just quite normal male behaviour? I think what concerns me the most is that a) he actually interacts with these girls, although it's a "fake" world, b) he pays for the service c) he visits the site very frequently (in my opinion at least... ).
I would really appreciate thoughts from you blokes out there and others with similar experiences. Thanks in advance!