kinshu123
Oct 4, 2011, 03:24 AM
Well,before stating my problem, let me tell you exactly how I and my boyfriend (lets call him Dav), started dating, since I feel this is relevant to my problem. Well so I met him over a couple of years ago and we hit it off instantly, as friends. However, to be honest, he never found me physically attractive. But anyway he and I soon became best friends and were so for almost a year before we started dating and used to share everything with each other, like any other pair of friends, we used to try and hook each other up with OTHER people.
Now during that time, Dav had a crush on this girl called Riya. They were good friends but on a superficial level. His main reason for liking her was that he thought she looked really beautiful. She was like the girl of his dreams. I did everything in my power to hook him up with her but unfortunately, she wasn't interested, so it didn't work out. Even he didn't take it seriously and instead of pursuing her, he drastically reduced contact with her.
Fast forward to today. A couple of months after Riya rejected him, Dav and I started dating and its been a happy relationship since almost a year now. But thing is, just as before, Dav still doesn't find me physically attractive, and trust me, this is not my vanity speaking, I am confident about this. He basically fell in love with me more because he enjoyed my company and not really because of my look, and don't get me wrong, he never ever rebukes me about it AT ALL, but neither has he ever complimented me on my looks more than 4-5 times from the time we started dating. Once when I asked him about this directly, he neither accepted nor denied this fact. How ever he keeps complimenting me on my personality almost everyday.
Now Riya knew about our relationship from the time we got committed. Dav told her. She seemed happy about it then. However yesterday evening she texted him while being completely drunk and completely flirted with him. She also said that she made a mistake by rejecting him a year ago and asked him if he still liked her. Dav chose not to reply to this, knowing that she was drunk. However last night when he and I were talking, he told me all about this and promised me that if ever he starts liking her again, he will definitely let me know before breaking up or something. When I asked him if Riya's new attentions on him had made him re ignite that old flame, and he seemed confused about it.
However good my nature maybe, he doesn't find me attractive and she is as beautiful as a goddess according to him. Now what should I do? I don't want to lose him from my life. He's not going to listen to me if I tell him to cease contact with her, although he would never initiate any romance with her on his own. I am sure he loves me, at least my company, at least calling me everyday and talking to me hours on end and wanting to meet me in different exciting places. He also said that as much as he MIGHT start liking her, he in no way wants to lose out on me. I, at least, don't want to lose out on him at all, for I love him madly.
Pleassseeeeeee help
P.S. I have never met or even spoken to Riya. She's his friend only and I don't think even he would appreciate me suddenly talking to her about this.
P.P.S. Thank you so much for all those who've had the patience to read this entire article :)))))))
Now during that time, Dav had a crush on this girl called Riya. They were good friends but on a superficial level. His main reason for liking her was that he thought she looked really beautiful. She was like the girl of his dreams. I did everything in my power to hook him up with her but unfortunately, she wasn't interested, so it didn't work out. Even he didn't take it seriously and instead of pursuing her, he drastically reduced contact with her.
Fast forward to today. A couple of months after Riya rejected him, Dav and I started dating and its been a happy relationship since almost a year now. But thing is, just as before, Dav still doesn't find me physically attractive, and trust me, this is not my vanity speaking, I am confident about this. He basically fell in love with me more because he enjoyed my company and not really because of my look, and don't get me wrong, he never ever rebukes me about it AT ALL, but neither has he ever complimented me on my looks more than 4-5 times from the time we started dating. Once when I asked him about this directly, he neither accepted nor denied this fact. How ever he keeps complimenting me on my personality almost everyday.
Now Riya knew about our relationship from the time we got committed. Dav told her. She seemed happy about it then. However yesterday evening she texted him while being completely drunk and completely flirted with him. She also said that she made a mistake by rejecting him a year ago and asked him if he still liked her. Dav chose not to reply to this, knowing that she was drunk. However last night when he and I were talking, he told me all about this and promised me that if ever he starts liking her again, he will definitely let me know before breaking up or something. When I asked him if Riya's new attentions on him had made him re ignite that old flame, and he seemed confused about it.
However good my nature maybe, he doesn't find me attractive and she is as beautiful as a goddess according to him. Now what should I do? I don't want to lose him from my life. He's not going to listen to me if I tell him to cease contact with her, although he would never initiate any romance with her on his own. I am sure he loves me, at least my company, at least calling me everyday and talking to me hours on end and wanting to meet me in different exciting places. He also said that as much as he MIGHT start liking her, he in no way wants to lose out on me. I, at least, don't want to lose out on him at all, for I love him madly.
Pleassseeeeeee help
P.S. I have never met or even spoken to Riya. She's his friend only and I don't think even he would appreciate me suddenly talking to her about this.
P.P.S. Thank you so much for all those who've had the patience to read this entire article :)))))))