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aisha3828
Oct 3, 2011, 08:38 AM
As salam alaikum, I'm from goa.I'm a girl with free natured ;loved my mom dad a lot. But I thing in life I did was loved a hindu. N this relation is still going on its been 8 yrs now. M 23 n his 31 yrs. He believes in allah talah n he loves me a lot and respects me n my family too. Ready even to kabul islam. But thrugh so many effrots my parents are not understanding. He even spoke to them but still they are not agreeing. Just because of them I have tried to brake this relationship several times but some how it turn back, I don't understand its alaha talah ishara for me to tell that he is the one or its my love. But I truly deivated once from him just because of my mom dad beczuse they see the reputation in society. N just for their happiness I also agree to marry sumone else but sum how proposal broke several times. N again his back, please help me dr. Zakir naik, what should I do. How to convince my family for him. Or else it will b grate help I'm sicking from you to help me n show me the way... Plzzz zazakallah.

salmanmohammed
Oct 7, 2011, 01:35 AM
Walaikumaslaam warahmatullah
If you are serious and the guy is serious.
Then let the guy first accept islam completely and join some dawah course. This way he would be able convince to your parents how genuinely he is serious both about his new faith and girl. Sometimes parents just don't want to get their children married if the lover wants to get converted only for the sake of love for girl/boy. Therefore its very important that the guy converts to islam for the sake of its truth and become a practising muslim
You also have the right not to accept any proposal brought forward by your parents. So first ask you boyfriend to start following steps that are mentioned above and then convince your parents that they cannot marry you without your permission and that you feel you might not be able to do justice if you are married to someone else. And this might bring shame to your family, so its better to accept this proposal in the best interest of both your family and your feelings towards the guy.
Remember not to run away or disobey your parents, even though as a last resort you can go to any qazi to ask him to become your wali/guardian to get you legally married. But the best option would be not to hurt your parents and convince them by working in right direction.