Hello I am Ann.
I am a mom who separated after 11 year from an unpleasant aggressive man after many attempts I did it. We had 2 kids that he never spent any time with. He tried to have kids taken away from me by attempted to smear my name but when the court talk to teacher neighbor and read report that people had field years earlier I retained custody and he received visitation only. Unfortunately he brain washed our kids with the help of his mother by telling the kids that - me there mother is:1. Stupid 2. Is unable to take care of them 3. Should not be respected 4. Should not listen to and the list goes on. The father of the children was aggressive we all lived on egg shell and now my son is behaving the same way that his father did, my son had started pushing me around and name calling and all around rude everyday and last May he moved in with his father, I had enough. My home is peaceful and a happy place. I have told my son he is welcome has long as the visit is positive and if he feel angry write it down and send it to me, he refused. What can I do to fix this situation and mend my relationship with my children?

I am so sorry this is happening to your family.

I would say that you and your children all need to go to family counselling together, as well as individual counselling too.

I wish you luck! Please don't lose hope!