My girlfriend of almost two years went to her ex-husbands house to drop off some of his belongings the other day. I was gone to the fair. She has two kids with this guy. I texted her asking how the kids were and if it was raining at home. She said she was where she worked because she forgot paperwork. The next day came and I found out that she went to her ex-husbands house and dropped off a box. She also asked her ex to see the kids bedroom at his house. I didn't find this out until I heard her talking to her sister. She didn't tell me two days before that she went there. I have done everything possible to make this work, but I'm getting tired of it. What should I do?

Well don't go off half cocked and ruin your relationship because your nose is out of joint because she didn't tell you till later on where she was going and what she was doing. I notice there is some jealousy here; but you do realize they obviously share children together so there will always be a bond.

I get the impression this happens on a regular basis, at least that is what you intimated. Do you think she still has feelings for her ex? Is that what you are getting at?

I think you have to calm down and just take this in your stride; I don't think she really has to tell you everything she is doing in a 24 hour period. Some people just don't feel they have to do that.

Don't do anything until you know something for sure.

Tick

I'm inclined to agree with Tick.

Because there are children involved the ex-husband is never, ever, ever, going away. Did you really text her to see how the children were and how was the weather? There would be no harm in her actions if you trusted her and she would have told you where she was going if she was not afraid of your reaction.

You need to talk to each other and if you choose to stay in this relationship you need to come to terms that there is now, and always will be a third party.