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Lyra123
Oct 1, 2011, 07:36 PM
I've got quite a few mental health issues, that are being taken care of and do not bother me in life anymore, but I feel that before getting into a relationship, the other person should have a right to know what they are getting themselves into. I am trying out dating sites and have been talking to a few people and getting to know them. At what point should I tell them, if at all, that I am well, crazy.

I mean I feel that it's important for a person to know before a serious relationship that I have manic days where I am like Taz the Tasmanian devil, and that certain things scare me, or set off panic attacks.

I have psychosis, bipolar, PTSD, anxiety, depression, OCD, and ADD.

Wondergirl
Oct 1, 2011, 07:41 PM
And you don't think the guy might have his own demons that he's afraid to tell you about?

First, get to know someone. Only when you like and trust him, and he you, do you have to start sharing information on how crazy each of you can be.

Lyra123
Oct 1, 2011, 07:51 PM
Thank you Wondergirl!

Wondergirl
Oct 1, 2011, 07:53 PM
Do you know how many weird or crazy or strange people there are in the world? Work at the front desk of a public library for two weeks, and then tell me if you still feel like the odd girl out.

Our 100-year-old patron always fell asleep while reading the paper (and patrons were afraid try to wake him for fear he was dead), our homeless guy would sleep in a chair in some corner and snore loudly, another patron shared with me that he drinks his own pee for health reasons, one woman would always come in and throw her arms across the counter and put her head on them and moan, "I just can't go on!" I won't tell you about the man who always came in on the day when grocery coupons were published in the local paper, but would buy his own paper, then bring it in with his own scissors and clip coupons, making us think he was cutting up the library's paper.

Should I go on? You, Lyra, in contrast would probably seem normal.

Lyra123
Oct 2, 2011, 10:44 AM
Do you know how many weird or crazy or strange people there are in the world? Work at the front desk of a public library for two weeks, and then tell me if you still feel like the odd girl out.

Our 100-year-old patron always fell asleep while reading the paper (and patrons were afraid try to wake him for fear he was dead), our homeless guy would sleep in a chair in some corner and snore loudly, another patron shared with me that he drinks his own pee for health reasons, one woman would always come in and throw her arms across the counter and put her head on them and moan, "I just can't go on!" I won't tell you about the man who always came in on the day when grocery coupons were published in the local paper, but would buy his own paper, then bring it in with his own scissors and clip coupons, making us think he was cutting up the library's paper.

Should I go on? You, Lyra, in contrast would probably seem normal.

Ha, I guess I do seem pretty normal. Although if I visited, you'd have the twitchy girl knocking things over and squeaking!
Thank you so much Wonergirl

talaniman
Oct 2, 2011, 03:18 PM
LOL, you are probably no crazier than the rest of us. Say nothing let them ask, "are you crazy or something?".

Don't be so worried about you being crazy, find out if THEY are crazy!

sewslikethewind
Oct 3, 2011, 10:05 PM
Mental health issues are so wide-spread this might be the new pick-up line of the decade:

"I have psychosis, bipolar, PTSD, anxiety, depression, OCD, and ADD, would you like a drink?"

Good for you for getting out there. Be yourself, have a good time, and don't worry about it. Like many others have said, everyone has issues -- many just go UN-diagnosed and untreated!

Lyra123
Oct 8, 2011, 04:11 PM
Thank you both for your advice. I like getting the different view points here

LadySam
Oct 8, 2011, 07:31 PM
I'm with WG when you know and trust him and vice versa.
Who knows what he may be dealing with himself.
I've been dating the same man for a little more than 2 years now and some things he just figured out for himself, like...
I am claustrophic to the point of panic and tears.
When I've had my fill of something, I tend to explode without warning.
Other things, but you get the point.
What I have found out is this, I didn't really have to tell him that much.
The more time we spent together, and the more we got to know about one another, the more mutual respect and concern we had for each other. Even with all our collective faults.
Just be yourself. Really, What is normal?

Lyra123
Oct 9, 2011, 08:04 PM
Thank you very much