Pboy87
Oct 1, 2011, 01:09 PM
Sorry for the long post... But I really don't know what to do so telling the situation n detail..
My girlfriend and me have been having crazy fights over the past few months. So in anger we both said we were breaking up Around a Month back. But next day onwards we still continued talking and chatting and weeks later we also confessed we still love each other a lot.. And are not going to move on..
We have had a few breakups in the past when angry and fighting and usually get back within few days.the longest being last time which was 3-4weeks.. during which we wold still talk and chat but just not officially together.
Recently she came for her best friends birthday party. (in my city.. She stays in another city 3 hours away).. And at this party was a very close friend of that best friend... who happens to be a guy who had a huge crush on my girl for many years and was a good friend of hers at that time.. My girl had kissed him once 4 years ago to spite her then boyfriend.. But told me she felt repulsed and guilty so never went ahead.. Though she did go on a few dates with him around 2 years back.. (just 2-3 months before I met her).. So well this guy.. I guess can be called her ex as they went on few dates and have kissed and been close.. She cut off contact with him because when they were dating he apparently told all his friend she is his girlfriend.. And she didn't like that so they fought.
They had met some months back at this same best friend place and they spoke it out and the fight got over and they got back to being cordial and friendly again.
Now.. This best friend knows I hate that guy not because I am insecure about him (though that's what she thinks) but because he is always around my girl when she goes to meet that best friend and sticks like a leech to them (he has always been like a leech with my girl).
Anyway,My girl is epileptic and she got an attack when she was there at this friends place doing up the arrangements for the party at night and this guy was there too helping and since they were apparently alone , when she got her attacks, he handled her and held her. She called me up later ad told me about this and I kind of got pissed that how come he was the only one there.. How come you two were alone and all that crap. (btw, my girl knew that I always hated her being around that guy, and that's why would never mingle with him and just keep distance and not keep much contact with him ,though she'd get pissed about it as she claimed that they were always very close friends and he was there for her whenever she needed a friend in the past and now even that misunderstanding over which they didn't talk much was cleared out).
So well, he held her and hugged her during her attacks and all that stuff and all this made me get damn irritated so I told her, that she should be there with him and he is there to handle her and hug her and not call me and this worsened her condition a bit. But what was in my mind was.. Even though she knew I hate that guy around her.. She was there all Alone with him and he handled her.
She got pissed as well ( pretty normal I guess because I acted like a jerk.. I thought over it after I calmed down and realised it was a medical condition and anyone helping at that point is good , it was just unfortunate for me that it was this guy, but he did help her and I should have been glad . But it had just got me disgusted to know that he was there alone with her and it made me jealous at that point so I lashed) and she also got pissed because she felt I was suspecting( we had broken up this time because I said some remark about them and she felt I was suspecting so we had fought) . So I called her up next evening and just asked her how she was and then we hung up.
Then I logged onto Facebook and see.. The best friend, whose birthday it was.. Posted a picture of My girl and that guy.. Very close.. Like.. Her back facing him and touching his left shoulder and he is holding her with his left hand around her neck... And labelled the pic as 'awwwwww'..
This really hurt me.. She always knew I hated that she be close to that guy . She knew I got pissed that he handled and hugged her during her attacks and still yet later.. During the party She is so close to him and he is holding her so close..
That best friend just uploaded this One photo from the party which kind of feels like it was just to piss me off and hurt me intentionally(but then the world doesn't revolve around me, So I dunno)...
And the comments on it hurt like crazy.. More than 10people liking the photo.. And over 40comments.. Like people saying.. You two give the most perfect picture.. You two look perfect together... And one guy wrote.. The girls smile is so happy but the guys smile is so crooked.. And this best friend replies.. The crooked smile is because they are having a secret affair.. And poss another comment.. This is what some people claim.. (hinting at me) and my girl and that guy like this comment.. And then another person writes.. No wonder the girl looks so happy and then there's like shhh.. its just for us to know.. And stuff like this.. It really hurts to read all this and see my girl being held so close by a guy I really despise.
I wrote her.. Nice pic.. Guess I should leave your life now.. And cut off all contact from her.. But the problem is.. I used to text her everyday at 7pm to have her epilepsy medicine and I even stopped that as I cut off.. But she still continues to message me at 7pm daily, that she has taken her medicine. This is going on for the past 5 days..
I really don't know what to do. I know she loves me but that photograph and her closeness to that guy really make me feel like throwing up and I kind of hate her for that closeness as she always knew I hated that guy like hell.. I don't want to be with her anymore because of all this and I am trying to move on but she is still messaging me daily and trying to stay in touch by trying to have conversation online.
Please help me.. What do I do? I really don't know what to do.. I hate the fact that she has this pic with this guy and people love them together and all.. And she is close to him too but it also makes me wonder at times ,why she is still holding on even after she knows she has hurt me like hell... And if it is really reason enough to finish this relationship and connection forever..
Please help me..
My girlfriend and me have been having crazy fights over the past few months. So in anger we both said we were breaking up Around a Month back. But next day onwards we still continued talking and chatting and weeks later we also confessed we still love each other a lot.. And are not going to move on..
We have had a few breakups in the past when angry and fighting and usually get back within few days.the longest being last time which was 3-4weeks.. during which we wold still talk and chat but just not officially together.
Recently she came for her best friends birthday party. (in my city.. She stays in another city 3 hours away).. And at this party was a very close friend of that best friend... who happens to be a guy who had a huge crush on my girl for many years and was a good friend of hers at that time.. My girl had kissed him once 4 years ago to spite her then boyfriend.. But told me she felt repulsed and guilty so never went ahead.. Though she did go on a few dates with him around 2 years back.. (just 2-3 months before I met her).. So well this guy.. I guess can be called her ex as they went on few dates and have kissed and been close.. She cut off contact with him because when they were dating he apparently told all his friend she is his girlfriend.. And she didn't like that so they fought.
They had met some months back at this same best friend place and they spoke it out and the fight got over and they got back to being cordial and friendly again.
Now.. This best friend knows I hate that guy not because I am insecure about him (though that's what she thinks) but because he is always around my girl when she goes to meet that best friend and sticks like a leech to them (he has always been like a leech with my girl).
Anyway,My girl is epileptic and she got an attack when she was there at this friends place doing up the arrangements for the party at night and this guy was there too helping and since they were apparently alone , when she got her attacks, he handled her and held her. She called me up later ad told me about this and I kind of got pissed that how come he was the only one there.. How come you two were alone and all that crap. (btw, my girl knew that I always hated her being around that guy, and that's why would never mingle with him and just keep distance and not keep much contact with him ,though she'd get pissed about it as she claimed that they were always very close friends and he was there for her whenever she needed a friend in the past and now even that misunderstanding over which they didn't talk much was cleared out).
So well, he held her and hugged her during her attacks and all that stuff and all this made me get damn irritated so I told her, that she should be there with him and he is there to handle her and hug her and not call me and this worsened her condition a bit. But what was in my mind was.. Even though she knew I hate that guy around her.. She was there all Alone with him and he handled her.
She got pissed as well ( pretty normal I guess because I acted like a jerk.. I thought over it after I calmed down and realised it was a medical condition and anyone helping at that point is good , it was just unfortunate for me that it was this guy, but he did help her and I should have been glad . But it had just got me disgusted to know that he was there alone with her and it made me jealous at that point so I lashed) and she also got pissed because she felt I was suspecting( we had broken up this time because I said some remark about them and she felt I was suspecting so we had fought) . So I called her up next evening and just asked her how she was and then we hung up.
Then I logged onto Facebook and see.. The best friend, whose birthday it was.. Posted a picture of My girl and that guy.. Very close.. Like.. Her back facing him and touching his left shoulder and he is holding her with his left hand around her neck... And labelled the pic as 'awwwwww'..
This really hurt me.. She always knew I hated that she be close to that guy . She knew I got pissed that he handled and hugged her during her attacks and still yet later.. During the party She is so close to him and he is holding her so close..
That best friend just uploaded this One photo from the party which kind of feels like it was just to piss me off and hurt me intentionally(but then the world doesn't revolve around me, So I dunno)...
And the comments on it hurt like crazy.. More than 10people liking the photo.. And over 40comments.. Like people saying.. You two give the most perfect picture.. You two look perfect together... And one guy wrote.. The girls smile is so happy but the guys smile is so crooked.. And this best friend replies.. The crooked smile is because they are having a secret affair.. And poss another comment.. This is what some people claim.. (hinting at me) and my girl and that guy like this comment.. And then another person writes.. No wonder the girl looks so happy and then there's like shhh.. its just for us to know.. And stuff like this.. It really hurts to read all this and see my girl being held so close by a guy I really despise.
I wrote her.. Nice pic.. Guess I should leave your life now.. And cut off all contact from her.. But the problem is.. I used to text her everyday at 7pm to have her epilepsy medicine and I even stopped that as I cut off.. But she still continues to message me at 7pm daily, that she has taken her medicine. This is going on for the past 5 days..
I really don't know what to do. I know she loves me but that photograph and her closeness to that guy really make me feel like throwing up and I kind of hate her for that closeness as she always knew I hated that guy like hell.. I don't want to be with her anymore because of all this and I am trying to move on but she is still messaging me daily and trying to stay in touch by trying to have conversation online.
Please help me.. What do I do? I really don't know what to do.. I hate the fact that she has this pic with this guy and people love them together and all.. And she is close to him too but it also makes me wonder at times ,why she is still holding on even after she knows she has hurt me like hell... And if it is really reason enough to finish this relationship and connection forever..
Please help me..