So I've known this girl for about 10 or 11 months. We met in school, and had one class together. We talked a lot during class, and seemed to be good friends, and we talked and said hello to each other when we saw each other in the hallway, but we never really hung out or talked after school. But I didn't start really liking her until about May/June. This part isn't important, I just thought I should at least mention it.

Ok so we didn't talk much the last few weeks of school. I was busy and emotionally exhausted during this time. Now skip to mid August. I was able to contact her, and since then we've been talking to each other a lot. Mainly through text. We found out that we live very close to each other. A 5 minute walk to get to each others house.(We both have lived in the same place all our lives)

So since late August, we met outside 3 times. Just us two. We just walked and talked, and had a great time. We sat down at the park and talked. We connected, made good eye contact, talked about many different things, she laughed at my jokes. I listened to her talk a lot, but she also asked me questions as well which I thought was a good thing. She seemed very comfortable with me. We hugged and touched each others shoulders. Nothing sensual though.

The third time, it ended kind of abruptly. She had to go to dinner with her family, so we were only together about 15 minutes. This kind of bothered me. I just get uncomfortable when I know I have a short time limit to talk with someone. So when we were about to go back to our homes, it was a little awkward. I felt it, and I'm sure she felt it.

Later at night she texted me saying she was sorry she had to leave early. I said it was OK, and then asked her if I could see her sometime during the next few days. She said she was staying at her brothers house the next few days, who lives far away.

So for the next week or so, we still talked to each other, but I was always the one to send the first text. I never showered her with texts or anything. It was always after 2 or 3 days. It was just to keep in touch and have her know that she's on my mind. Her texts were never one word texts or anything. They were always fairly in depth and our texting never ended in an awkward way. I should probably mention that our texts and when we talked in person were always a little flirty.

8 days after the last time we hung out, I asked if she wanted to go with me and get some food. She said her mom isn't letting her. She's 16 and I'm 18 by the way. I said OK np. She said she was sorry, similar to the last time I asked her out. Later at night, she texted me saying what's up? The first time she sent the first text since the last time we saw each other. So we talked some more that night. I eventually told her that it I was wide awake and couldn't sleep. She laughed and asked me if I was doing something tomorrow. I made plans with some friends so I told her I was.

We didn't talk until a few days later, I texted her before she started school, saying good morning, have a good day. Again just to keep in touch, and to let her know she's on my mind. She texted back saying "thanks, you too :)"

Now again a few days later, I texted her saying what's up. She gave a good response, and she asked me how I was. We talked a bit more, and I asked how school went for her. Here's the rest of the conversation, but shortned a bit.

Her:"I have so much to tell you"
Me:"What happened?"
Her:"It's too much to say over text lol"
Me:"lol"
Me:"How about tomorrow we go out and you tell me everything?"
Her:"If my mom allows me sure :)"
Me:"Ok let me know"
Her:"Ok :)"

That's the end. Now her telling me she has so much to tell me, and then saying it's too much to say over text, its easy to assume that she wants to talk to me in person.

Fast forward to the next day. I texted her in the afternoon, saying to let me know if she can come outside. She responded saying she can't because of the weather.(It was raining a lot.) I expected this response. I then told her that the weather was supposed to be nice tomorrow. Then I said, "or maybe the weather will get better later today"

Then she texted me saying she was sick, and I asked since when?

She said she just started feeling a bit sick earlier.

I told her to feel better, and that "talking a walk outside with the air is good for you ;)"

She said "thanks but my family wants me to stay in and rest."

So that's what where we are now. I really like this girl a lot. We both really connect, we're similar, and we both just really understand each other. But quite frankly, I'm confused. Is she interested in me or not? Is she unsure?

She once told me that, a few months ago this guy told her that he really likes her, and she told him that she didn't feel the same way, and that it wouldn't work out, and that the guy became a jerk afterwards. So I'm sure she would be honest with me and tell me the same thing if she didn't like me.

Help is greatly appreciated. I'm new to this site, so sorry if this is considered to long.

Hey, it seems like a reminisce of what I went through, with my first g/f. Of course, it was really strange because when we had 4 years difference and her mother didn't want her daughter to be in a relationship because she was way younger than me. Anyway, we also went over the same thing just like you and your friend did. We spent time together and did many things together. We had some heart-aching moments like what you had but that's all just part of the process. Now, onto the point, buddy. By the time you started to spend time with her and she went with your ways, and also decided to text you and call you that she's sorry when she is supposed to be, there's obvious signs that she is interested in you too. Now the thing here is, you just aren't too sure about it right? Well, here's a few things you can do and it worked for me perfectly. Instead of texting or calling, try writing her a letter. But then you shouldn't say you're interested in getting into a relationship with her YET because she might get afraid of starting what she might have not experienced before. Needs some time and patience. Just write her by saying things like "hi there, just decided to write you a small letter. How are you? Hope everything is well. I just reminded myself of your smile when you're happy...." and then continue from there. Be pure and honest with your thoughts. Again, don't just get to a point where you want to be in a relationship YET again. Give your letter, and see how she responds to your letter and your thoughtful words. Girls tend to get really emotional and touched when they can see it with their own eyes that someone is caring for them. Of course, she won't say that. But she'll FEEL that. Sooner or later, she'll come to want to talk to you privately. When she asks you why you wrote the letter in the beginning, you tell her "oh, I wanted to give you a gift. A gift of my feelings to you. For being a great friend." But don't let her linger there! Because you might lose the chance to confess your feelings. When she goes a bit silent, tell her "you know, I was wondering.. I never was happy with anyone else before. You make me smile when you do. So I was thinking..I wish to share every happiness and smiles that we'd come across. Lately I have felt very comfortable being next to you." Then she might still pause a bit or admit it's the same for her. Then you continue, "I want to be honest with you, as I always have been for you. Hope you hear me out on this. I think you're great. You're awesome. No words can describe you. I wish to protect you from harm. I want to be there next to you always. My heart whispers your name. Can you be the one to answer it? In other words...do you want to take a step further with me?" And the rest you figure out what you should do pal. Because that's a trade secret haha... What I can say though, after hearing your story, she IS interested in you, BIG TIME. She is just afraid to admit her feelings as of yet because you didn't say anything yet. She is just being protective of her feelings so she won't get hurt. I hope this was helpful. I wish you all the best! Take care! :)

Btw, if she just says thank you and doesn't talk much about the letter, you have to find some way to bring about the conversation to it so it becomes a weapon you can use, not a mine you can step on. And I almost forgot, there's another way, and this is what audacious guys do, just bluntly admit your feelings to her and be honest with your feelings! Girls appreciate honesty and purity.

One thing I'm confused about is, if she's interested in me, why would she miss an opportunity to see me and give me a chance to tell/show her how I feel?

Also, I should say that she has been in a relationshop before.

Now about your idea of writing a letter, it would be a sweet thing to do, but it's really not something that I would do. It's a bit out of my character. Now don't get me wrong, I have no problem taking a risk and doing something crazy, but writing a letter when I can just walk up to her door and knock just doesn't feel right. And I don't think she'll care for it either.

I'm thinking of just telling her how I feel, but I've read that it's not such a great thing to do sometimes. I told the last girl I had feelings for that I liked her and wanted more than just friendship, but that didn't work out. I know it's a different girl, but I just don't want to make the same mistake.

May I suggest to you that the key to getting anywhere with her is to meet and be accepted by her parents? Maybe that's her reluctance to being more available as its often the case that a parent has to know who, when, and where their 16 year old daughter is with.

Your being 18 may not be something they would go along with, but you will never know without asking her. Its obvious though that things will not go at the pace you want them to so find out facts, and show some patience.

A proper pursuit has to go according to her family wishes though. You don't have to write a letter to talk to her, and find out.

I agree.

After all, she isn't of consent.

If I were her parents, I would be protective too. At 16. C'mon.

"I told the last girl I had feelings for that I liked her and wanted more than just friendship"

Maybe date some older, I mean, other girls in the meantime.

Shop around. Be patient.
Be single. Your 18.