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milo19
Sep 30, 2011, 10:19 AM
So here is the story me and her dated for a good year best one of my life we truly did felt for each other I even ask her to married me valentine day my last year of school...
Then we figure out she was pregnant I promise never to leave her that I was willing to be there I was there when she took the test in front of her family and even with all the emotions I never left but later stuff got all weird she ask for a break I was like there is no break once we inn this we are together all the way.
But I agree because my mom told me to do whatever she wan me to do...
So I agree but I didn't feel good or anything so I regret it I tried to get he back but it was weird the way she was she would make me feel bad and I don't know.. let just say stuff got real bad and she started fighting with me saying different stuff I admit it I was mad and sad at times she would put something on her Facebook like I love this attention and I would ask her and she would say is a friend and stuff then stuff got bad we fight well she did I would take the hits because my mom would tell me to shut up and I did to not make it long lets say she left me and she is 7 months now and I am so depress I wan to be a part of her and our baby life but she push me away so far away and I just wan her back I don't know if I should tell her I still love her or anything and it hurts me it kills mei did some mistakes I admit it but I was willing to fight for her work it out with her any way I can possibly think off she just never let me do my stuff... I don't know what to do anymore?

talaniman
Sep 30, 2011, 03:47 PM
Dude, she is 7 months pregnant. Do exactly what she says no matter how crazy it sounds, and get your money together. You have two months of this crazy stuff to deal with, so no crying, whining, or self pity.

Listen to your mom, she knows. So does your dad. Talk to him, he knows too.

milo19
Sep 30, 2011, 04:57 PM
That what I been doing mate trying to get a second job and trying to get my high school diploma so I can actually have something to fight back with..

talaniman
Oct 1, 2011, 12:02 PM
You don't have to fight, just work with her to raise this child, whether she hates you forever, or not. Whether you live as a family, or NOT.

vanheart
Oct 2, 2011, 04:46 PM
I agree. You are going to be a Dad.

Be one. Get all of the support you need.

milo19
Mar 16, 2012, 09:38 PM
This thread was merged with the previous one.

My ex and I made a baby. I know, we were both 18, and through the pregnancy she left me, and said horrible things to me, made me feel less of a man. And even after all of that she did to me, I still tried my best to keep in touch, because I was willing to be there, as a father, and man, and I knew that pregnancy might drive females nuts. But this one right here was really hating me, but here is what happened.

She would say leave me alone, stop texting me, calling me little butt hurt kid! Sometimes I wouldn't replied or talk I would just stay quiet and let her finish, and still ask her how she feels! But as time passed, I started to get away from her, but not completely, why not because I wanted to, but because she changed her number! So months pass and she finally text me from her new number saying do you miss me, and me as the retard I am, said how much I do, and that I would do anything to be with her, and her in my arms! Last time I heard from her when she finally gave birth she came looking for me and was been sweet nice and lovable I was trying to keep myself from falling again, but I was still been there as much as she allow me to for her and our baby which due to the distance wasn't a lot but I did.

And would one time I went to sleep at her house because her mom left and we stayed all night with our baby spend time happy and laugh I don't know much about baby's but I still loved that feeling of having my little family. It was all good till she randomly started ignoring me all over again, but without cursing me just ignoring me. After I grew a pair to ask her what was going on after we were working it all out again, she finally said while been pregnant she found feelings for someone else that debased me, and I went on a crazy partying, drinking spree. I know is stupid of me but this way at least I can keep her out of my mind!

But I think is all plan because her mom never like me she would make our life miserable after getting engaged the same night she told her she can't never see me again and made fun of my ring in front of me! And the night I spend it with her she called her mom in the bathroom and I heard her say "is he there " she said yes he is here her mom said is payback time! She acts like I am horrible.

I know I did a mistake by letting this happen early, but I will never consider my daughter a mistake, because I love her and I want to be a part of her life. I enjoy it for some reason. I am more attached to little girls now. I help at my church and teach them and take care of them now, and I feel great like I am helping this out!.

Please answer my question or give me anything I can work with because so far none has given me and answer!

Alty
Mar 16, 2012, 09:43 PM
I'd love to give you an answer, but first, you have to ask a question. All you've done is given us a rant on what's gone on in your life. So, what's your question?

milo19
Mar 16, 2012, 09:46 PM
My question is so far by what you can read what happen here do you think it was all planned for me to leave her and my daughter alone for the rest of my life! Of is it just a sick joke of life!



And I am sorry I can't hardly keep myself together I am crying as I type all of this none out there can give me a word or anything

Alty
Mar 16, 2012, 09:58 PM
I don't think it was planned.

I think that the main problem is that you were both too young to be in a serious relationship, and definitely too young to be parents. You are a statistic. The chances that the two of you would be together forever at 18, with a child. Well, you had better odds at winning the lottery.

None of this means that you can't be a part of your daughters life. You're her father! You don't have to be with her mother in order to be her father.

Do you pay child support? Have you gone to court for visitation?

Don't give up being a part of your daughters life. You have the right to be! So set your goals on being a father to your daughter, not on getting her mother back.

talaniman
Mar 18, 2012, 02:19 AM
Sorry it didn't work out, but you can be in your daughters life and be a good dad if you forget completely the notion of having a family with this woman.

The court can help you with regular visitations and child support. Just be calm and relax, and stop letting her push your buttons and keep you upset. This often happens when young love goes bad, and you should learn from it, and be better for the experience.

Don't let this fool of a female, or her mother stop you from doing the right thing for your daughter.