I'm 24 and I've been with my girlfriend for two years and with no real issues, she is pretty much like a guy in a lot of senses. We had a very trusting relationship and weren't the type that needed to be around each other all the time. But after going out with her girl friends a few weekends in a row, she came back and asked me for a break. Totally blind siding me.

She says she loves me and knows she wants to be me with me the rest of her life, but not right now. Saying she needs time, cause the thought of marriage (not that its been discussed) scares her right now. I'm a pretty straight shooter and I can't relate where she is coming from. When were together thing are fine but she says she doesn't miss me like she use to when were not together. I have asked her if she really does love me and truly believes the part about being with me the rest of our lives and she continues to say yes, but I have my doubts based off the situation.

She says it not about finding anyone else or talking to other guys, she even sent me a text message recently when she thought someone was telling me she was. She says her mind and heart are saying two different things. I don't know I am a pretty guarded person and often never showed her the same affection she showed me when I knew she was head over heels about me. She never told me this till after the fact, and I wish she did cause I would have been willing to change if you will, cause I honestly thought it was just a game between us.

Is this possible from anyone else's experience or am I kidding myself in think that time will make things better reasonably soon?

hey ziggy, let me enlighten you a little bit.she is not totally happy with you. Not because she don't care about you, but because someone else is whispering in her ear. She might have been introduced to another guy by someone else.let me tell you something, there is always going to be somebody better than you or me,which make people compete with each other,but if you have no moral values to offer her,she will shy away, or either she don't want to live with your moral values.nevertheless, let her go ,don't force it ,it only gets worse. If she really wants you she will have you ,and only you.just let her know that you will not wait around for her,because if you do it will tear you apart.

Appreciate the feedback, but what do you mean by moral values? Where do my morals come into play here? I don't think I said or did anything that but my morals in question?

Believe me ziggy, it's got a lot to do with morals whether they are yours or hers.it's like a putting a puzzle together,some pieces are missing.everybody wants a perfect relationship.when do you determine the first sign of trouble in any situation? When things are not working properly.it's either right or wrong. Live on ziggy. Don't be selffish, it's not going to go your way all the time, neither is it going to work out as planned either. Happy living!

Haha dude I'm all about morals I have strong set of them... I just don't see what aspect of my story make you think either one of our morals are an issue, I'm not saying your wrong, it just seems like your making a statement with out any detailed support?

When they ask for space, give it to them and start enjoying doing your thing without her. Don't know if she will see the light soon, or miss you and come running back, but who can wait in limbo?

Plan for the worst, while you hope for the best, and have your own life to follow, whether she comes back or not since no one knows, not even her.

Leave her alone until she makes up her mind. She ask for time and space, give it to her.

Appreciate the feedback talaniman.