JustABud29
Sep 29, 2011, 12:43 PM
Last Friday night, my partner went out with his friend Alice. They had drinks and got drunk. I am a male and my partner is a male as well!
They got really drunk and at the bar, Alice met a guy and he wanted to take her home.
My Partner was with them so he went over too.
They all did a line of Cocaine. My partner does not usually take drugs.
He doesn't drink all the time but when he does he doesn't stop and has blackouts.
Alice started sleeping with the random guy and my partner said he had a blackout and hardly remembers the night after the club but he keeps getting flashes and he remembers being naked. Watching Alice having sex with this man. He crawled into the bed with them. He kissed Alice even though girls do nothing for him. He than proceeded to touch the male's private probably in hopes the guy would do something with him. That's the just of it.
He came clean to me about it five days later. (after testing the waters and revealing a little at a time and a few lies in between until the water was safe!) He said, he was trying to piece it all together and that he didn't want to tell me. He had to!
The relationship before hand is picture perfect! We have an amazing place together. We're always together. We are best friends. Both Monogamous and we both love each other very much. I just about broke it off even though no sex or oral sex was involved with him. He cried out loud that he told me the truth because he loves me and wants to get through this together. His mom sat me down and said that on her side, when they drink, blackouts happen so she has not drank in over thirty years and that her son (my bf) shouldn't drink if he blackouts.
I feel like I can forgive... What do I do? I do love him and he was honest and sincere. He said he wants to spend his life with me and will do anything to earn my trust back.
Does anyone know if blackout cheating is a valid excuse? He's working on not drinking at all now because of this. Last night we went to couples counselling to try and overcome this.
I have never been blackout drunk so I'm not sure how one reacts when in that state!
Yours Truly, AC
They got really drunk and at the bar, Alice met a guy and he wanted to take her home.
My Partner was with them so he went over too.
They all did a line of Cocaine. My partner does not usually take drugs.
He doesn't drink all the time but when he does he doesn't stop and has blackouts.
Alice started sleeping with the random guy and my partner said he had a blackout and hardly remembers the night after the club but he keeps getting flashes and he remembers being naked. Watching Alice having sex with this man. He crawled into the bed with them. He kissed Alice even though girls do nothing for him. He than proceeded to touch the male's private probably in hopes the guy would do something with him. That's the just of it.
He came clean to me about it five days later. (after testing the waters and revealing a little at a time and a few lies in between until the water was safe!) He said, he was trying to piece it all together and that he didn't want to tell me. He had to!
The relationship before hand is picture perfect! We have an amazing place together. We're always together. We are best friends. Both Monogamous and we both love each other very much. I just about broke it off even though no sex or oral sex was involved with him. He cried out loud that he told me the truth because he loves me and wants to get through this together. His mom sat me down and said that on her side, when they drink, blackouts happen so she has not drank in over thirty years and that her son (my bf) shouldn't drink if he blackouts.
I feel like I can forgive... What do I do? I do love him and he was honest and sincere. He said he wants to spend his life with me and will do anything to earn my trust back.
Does anyone know if blackout cheating is a valid excuse? He's working on not drinking at all now because of this. Last night we went to couples counselling to try and overcome this.
I have never been blackout drunk so I'm not sure how one reacts when in that state!
Yours Truly, AC