I'm a 69 year old male, married for 44 years, with a great family.

I have no physical relationship with my wife, and she is unwilling to even discuss it. I long for female companionship and touch but do not want to get a divorce.

What can I do?

Get your wife to go with you to marriage counseling.

Or consign yourself to being the "bad guy" that cheats on your wife and hire a prostitute.

A lot of intimacy in a marriage is lost with physical intimacy lost--even if you do not have sex, there are other ways to be physically intimate, like cuddling, kissing, holding hands, etc.

Has your wife EVER given you a reason why she does not want to be physically intimate anymore?

Get your wife to go with you to marriage counseling.

Or consign yourself to being the "bad guy" that cheats on your wife and hire a prostitute.

A lot of intimacy in a marriage is lost with physical intimacy lost--even if you do not have sex, there are other ways to be physically intimate, like cuddling, kissing, holding hands, etc.

Has your wife EVER given you a reason why she does not want to be physically intimate anymore?

I personally don't think hiring a prostitute is a good idea.