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MackenziesMoon
Sep 28, 2011, 03:09 PM
Okay, I'm 16 and just started college one month ago. I know that some of you will say a month isn't very long, but please bare with me.

I am on level 1 drama at college and I like it so far, and I seem to be getting on quite well with some people from the top level (level 4), but there are some things that are already bothering me about it. Level 4 lead our induction day (first day with games etc to make us more comfortable), but the past few weeks I've talked to them quite a lot even though we only see each other once a week for maybe 10 minutes a day when we cross paths at breaks. I know that isn't much, but on the second week, all levels went on a theatre trip together and I talked to some of the level 4 people most of the day.

*Jenny (19yo) and *Prue (17yo) from level 4 said that *Stanley (17yo) (also level 4) lied a lot last year (all three of them started on level 3 because they didn't need to do level 1 or 2 first). However, I've talked quite a bit to all three, but more to Stanley. He seems nice, and I want to get to know all of them before they leave next year, but each time I talk to Stanley, the memory of Jenn and Prue telling me he was a compulsive liar last year keeps resurfacing and distracting me.

All I know for sure right now, is that the 6 or 7 people I know from level 4 will all help me if I have a question about the course or will talk to me if they see me, so that's nice.

I will make my own opinion of all of them, because I don't know any of them THAT well yet. Maybe they didn't get along with him or it was a misunderstanding, or maybe it was true? I don't know, so you won't either, but how much should I bare in mind what they said?

Also, on his Facebook, people have said stuff like "tryin to persuade girls you aren't a player? Its just like you ahahahaha" which he replied "haha lol" and another comment on his page was "makin sure you aren't getting girls preggers?!" which he didn't comment on...

There will be drama queens or people who exaggerate/lie because there always is, that's life... But please don't just say stuff like "it's only a month", "it's just on Facebook" or "make your own opinion of him" because I know and I will, but how much should I take on board what Jenn and Prue said and what was on Stanley's Facebook page?

(*names changed)

Thanks for reading it, I'm grateful for any constructive advice :)

secretface
Oct 8, 2011, 07:51 PM
I guess if you want to be his friend, you shouldn't listen to what Jenn and Prue say, or Stanley's Facebook page. I'm not saying ignore it completely.
Have you spoken to Stanley about it? It really just depends on whether you want to be his friend or not. Some people can be completely different to what they say, he could be a player and trying to pick up chicks, but I think things will be fine if you don't believe EVERYTHING he says or start liking him more than friend. There is a website here, http://www.blifaloo.com/info/lies.php that shows you the common signs of liers. Watch him occasionally when you are talking to him, ask him about simple things, like how his day is, and watch his reaction to your answer, since it most likey cannot be a lie. Then ask him about the Facebook page and what people have been saying. I hope it helps! :)