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jennhor
Sep 26, 2011, 12:16 AM
I slept with my ex-boyfriend even I know he has a girlfriend cause I feel lonely, but after few months,he told me that his girlfriend actually is his wife,that mean while he got a wife he has the relationship with me, few weeks ago his wife in the ward cause of sickness and now his wife is passed away, after that I found out he got a son. I hate myself to involve in the relationship. I hate myself sleep with him even I know he got a girlfriend (since I don't know that is his wife), I feel so sorry to his wife and son, I feel uncomfortable, my heart feel pain. To me, he is the Most Honest guy I know... why a honest guy also lie, cheat and flirt.. how I'm going to trust a guy now?
Mpho13
Sep 26, 2011, 04:01 AM
Truth be told. You can never trust him again. He has proved time and time again that he is not faithfull and does not respect your feelings.
Let go and let flow. You deserve much much better!
0rphan
Sep 26, 2011, 12:25 PM
You knew he had what you thought was a girlfriend in the beginning,you should have walked away.I understand that you were lonely,and these things sadly do happen.It does take two, so stop beating yourself up about it.He is married with a child and should have been strong enough to tell you that,unfortunately he was just after his own pleasure,without a thought to his wife and child.
It is very sad that his wife has now passed, but it is not yours, or his fault.It sounds like she had an illness no one could have known that.I am sure that the guilt he is now feeling is more then his shoulders can bare, it is for him to deal with and do the best for his son now.
Unfortunately Jennhor, there are men who live their lives cheating and lying for their own gratification,but there are also lots of very decent honest guys as well.
Don't always take spoken words from a man you don't know as gospel... if your in doubt don't be afraid to question them.
talaniman
Sep 26, 2011, 02:35 PM
He is not the honest guy you thought, you were wrong, and it would be wrong to ever trust, or deal with him again.
jennhor
Sep 26, 2011, 06:40 PM
Thanks for the answers guy... probably I'm too easy to trust people...