Me and my ex broke up in march 2011 but we continued to talk and act like we were together until one night when we got into an argument and this was in August. We had a great relationship but we did fight sometimes... I don't know if he still loves me. I'm pretty sure he still cares but I can't seem to get over him. H came to my birthday dinner and we had not talked prior. He gave me a card with some money. I miss him and I want to be back with him but I don't think he feels the same I'm not sure. When I ask can I come over he says no in the politest way because I don't think he wants to catch feelings all over again... what can I do to show him I still love him and want to be with him?

I don't think this will work if 6 months of talking didn't get you back together. I think he was giving you a hint that he doesn't want to try again, and maybe its time to let it go.

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I hate to think this way because I really love him :( I just want to try again!

It takes two people of making that effort. If it is only one sided it will not work.

"we continued to talk and act like we was together"

That's the problem right there. You didn't understand the meaning of breakup.

That means no longer. Broken-Up.

"He gave me a card with some money"

How romantic. Take it & run.

You are barking up the wrong tree.

Maybe he says no in the politest way because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. If it is as obvious to him as it is to us that you still want to be with him, then he is just trying to be nice to you. I'm sorry, but if we wanted to be with you, he wouldn't have shot you down all these months. Its time to let go, go no contact, and take some time to get over this.

Thanks guys its easier said then done but I guess that's what ill have to do!

You should be straight to him , tell him how you feel and that your finding it hard to get over him , if his reply is negative to that then you no that its time to move on , if he's cool with it play it slow see what happens and take it slowly instead of jumping back in to a committed relationship as this proberlly won't work good luck x

I think he sort of knows by my actions that I'm still not over him but I think the reason he doesn't want to be around me is because he's still not over me! His birthday is coming up and I was going to make him his favorite cake and bring it to his house... is that a good or bad idea?

Your not listening to the advice anyone is giving you. I thin the only reason he says no is because he is still not over me?

I mean is that like no means yes or something? Honestly have some self respect take the hint and leave with your head held high
If you try and buy his affections with cakes and stuff you will
And I'm telling you this.. You will get majorly hurt and upset

It's over go no contact .

Remember never assume what other people are thinking or feeling
Keep on like that expect pain

I think he sort of knows by my actions that I'm still not over him but I think the reason he doesn't want to be around me is because he's still not over me! His birthday is coming up and I was going to make him his favorite cake and bring it to his house...is that a good or bad idea?

Bad idea.

I think he sort of knows by my actions that I'm still not over him but I think the reason he doesn't want to be around me is because he's still not over me! His birthday is coming up and I was going to make him his favorite cake and bring it to his house...is that a good or bad idea?

Lousy idea, because if you are right, he isn't over you, but he is trying to GET OVER you, then he doesn't want you, and WANTS to move on. Why can't you let him, if that's what you think he is trying to do??

Oh, that's right, you want him back, whether he wants to come back, or NOT?

Maybe he feels like you are better without him he has to many issues to work out or something it also take two to make a relationship work you will find that one & then be happy that it did not work out

Maybe he feels like he is being stalked and does not have any breathing room?

Maybe you are all right the only one that really knows how he feels is him and GOD but I thank you all for your advice and comments... if its meant to be it will if not then oh well!

Broken up is broken up is broken up.

How many more times?

"the only one that really knows how he feels is him"

You got that right. Now be really smart.

Stop worrying about him.
Just you. The next chapter w/o him. Try it.