santofool
Feb 3, 2007, 03:49 PM
I met my husband 7 years ago through a friend of mine. At first we only talked and then we wanted to meet. He directed me to his web page, which he has a pictue of his friend (which I didn't know was a friend, I thought it was him) and I mistakenly thought it was him. I said something about him being adorable - and he said no, that was his friend... so he directed me to another pic of the real him. He was cute, too but not the sparky cute of his friend. We then met in person, dated, got married, etc.
During that time, we hung out some with his friends. I always had this nagging spark for this one friend of his from the picture. He was sexy, funny, intelligent and just, I don't know... I was oblivious about whether he liked me or not - as I was so caught up in my romance with my husband I never noticed. His friend was even there when we got engaged. Eventually, we saw him less and less, until there was a point we didn't see him for long times.
By this point in my relationship, I felt I was being pushed toward marriage (we dragged engagement on for 4 years) but eventually just agreed. My husband and I got married and his friends was among the attendees, including this guy. I could feel the weight of his eyes on me during the wedding. I never blushed more. At first, I thought I was crazy, but it happened again after the wedding when my hub & I were picked up to go out with this friend and another friend. He was staring at me in his rear view mirror and his eyes stays with me to this day.
Eventually his friend moved far away from us. It's been 3 years since I've seen him. But I think about him all the time. My husband keeps me filled on him because my husband knows he's among the few friends of his I do like. He's cheated death, moved 4 times, and now is doing what he loves - I'm so incredibly happy for him.
8 months ago, my husband received an email from an anonymous friend (which I believe is his friend) with some music I liked. I was shocked that someone would make the effort to remember I liked this and thought enough of me to send it on. I thanked who ever it was via email (the email I didn't recognize) and never heard back. Out of the blue we heard from his friend this month via email and my hub told me. I decided to email him at his regular email address just to say 'hi' (which I've never done) and wish him well, with no response.
Since then, I've thought about this guy. He's single, will never get married and have kids (or I've been told) and isn't interested in settling down. I am still young (30's), married, no kids, and all in all not unhappy. But it hasn't stopped me from trying to find him, thinking about him and if he's happy, or dreaming about him. I just wonder, you know? I'm starting to think I'm nuts. Am I torturing myself over nothing? How do I not think of him? Help!
During that time, we hung out some with his friends. I always had this nagging spark for this one friend of his from the picture. He was sexy, funny, intelligent and just, I don't know... I was oblivious about whether he liked me or not - as I was so caught up in my romance with my husband I never noticed. His friend was even there when we got engaged. Eventually, we saw him less and less, until there was a point we didn't see him for long times.
By this point in my relationship, I felt I was being pushed toward marriage (we dragged engagement on for 4 years) but eventually just agreed. My husband and I got married and his friends was among the attendees, including this guy. I could feel the weight of his eyes on me during the wedding. I never blushed more. At first, I thought I was crazy, but it happened again after the wedding when my hub & I were picked up to go out with this friend and another friend. He was staring at me in his rear view mirror and his eyes stays with me to this day.
Eventually his friend moved far away from us. It's been 3 years since I've seen him. But I think about him all the time. My husband keeps me filled on him because my husband knows he's among the few friends of his I do like. He's cheated death, moved 4 times, and now is doing what he loves - I'm so incredibly happy for him.
8 months ago, my husband received an email from an anonymous friend (which I believe is his friend) with some music I liked. I was shocked that someone would make the effort to remember I liked this and thought enough of me to send it on. I thanked who ever it was via email (the email I didn't recognize) and never heard back. Out of the blue we heard from his friend this month via email and my hub told me. I decided to email him at his regular email address just to say 'hi' (which I've never done) and wish him well, with no response.
Since then, I've thought about this guy. He's single, will never get married and have kids (or I've been told) and isn't interested in settling down. I am still young (30's), married, no kids, and all in all not unhappy. But it hasn't stopped me from trying to find him, thinking about him and if he's happy, or dreaming about him. I just wonder, you know? I'm starting to think I'm nuts. Am I torturing myself over nothing? How do I not think of him? Help!