finest10
Sep 20, 2011, 05:47 PM
To start I'm a 38/m married with three children. I have been married now for 15 years. 10 of those years I have not been happy, from feeling sick whenever she touches me or not wanting to do anything with her. She is a very hard nut to crack. I have had relationships outside of the marriage (which I'm not happy about) it all started back 10 years ago when we had out first child and I told her to stay home and raise our baby. At the same time I started a new career which is a very stressful one.
As time went on I saw the problems beginning, we have no communication at all between us and still to this day. As time went on I went my way and she maintained the path that I put her on by staying home. This was probably the worst mistake I have ever done was telling her to stay home, she has missed out on a life that she could have had and I feel like I stole those years from her because now she is cold/hard/unemotional and drinking more and more everyday.
Trust me I take fault in our marriage by running out and not doing the right thing, but it's a little too late for that. I ran out because I don't get the love and attention at home, while I still give it to her. Today I sat her down with my bags packed at the kitchen door with hopes to talk, which we did for 3 hours. I had told her the truth about everything and that we need marriage counseling, she needs to go back to work and she needs to stop drinking.
Well... I am now typing this in my apartment that I rented till the end of the month, she agreed on going back to work and agreed to stop drinking (which I have heard both of those before) but she would not commit to marriage counseling. I told her for me to stay I need to her to commit to all three. Well 2 out of 3 is not good enough.
I have so much more to write but I'm anxious to hear from everyone. Before I left I asked her if she still loves me and she said yes, I then said OK but what about "in"love with me and she replied yes to that as well, so I am confused why she would let her husband leave the house because she can't commit to therapy
As time went on I saw the problems beginning, we have no communication at all between us and still to this day. As time went on I went my way and she maintained the path that I put her on by staying home. This was probably the worst mistake I have ever done was telling her to stay home, she has missed out on a life that she could have had and I feel like I stole those years from her because now she is cold/hard/unemotional and drinking more and more everyday.
Trust me I take fault in our marriage by running out and not doing the right thing, but it's a little too late for that. I ran out because I don't get the love and attention at home, while I still give it to her. Today I sat her down with my bags packed at the kitchen door with hopes to talk, which we did for 3 hours. I had told her the truth about everything and that we need marriage counseling, she needs to go back to work and she needs to stop drinking.
Well... I am now typing this in my apartment that I rented till the end of the month, she agreed on going back to work and agreed to stop drinking (which I have heard both of those before) but she would not commit to marriage counseling. I told her for me to stay I need to her to commit to all three. Well 2 out of 3 is not good enough.
I have so much more to write but I'm anxious to hear from everyone. Before I left I asked her if she still loves me and she said yes, I then said OK but what about "in"love with me and she replied yes to that as well, so I am confused why she would let her husband leave the house because she can't commit to therapy