drgnslyr18
Sep 17, 2011, 11:22 PM
My Girlfriend told me months ago about how when she was for her cousin 20 at the time molested her.
And all the issues she had for a while like being depressed and scared till about age 8 or 9. For a while now, when we had been making out and I would start foreplay. She seemed fine with it and enjoyed it.
So that went on for a while then I noticed she was acting odd and I asked what was wrong and she started crying and after some 15 minutes of crying, she told me how every time after I started foreplay, she remembers her childhood and the emotions and fears come rushing back.
I held her for an extra 10 or so min then when she was finished crying I apologized repeatedly while hugging her. She said it wasn't my fault, but I can't help feeling horrible for bringing back those feelings.
She assumed that after awhile those fears would go away, and she thought they had. But the night when I got to 3rd base for the first time she said she had relived those fears. She never told me about it and looking back Ive been doing that for over a month and because of me she has had to deal with those feelings.
Now I have no idea what to do to help or fix what I did. I know I won't do that again until she asks me to or I just won't. But what can I do? I honestly want to go back in time and prevent him from molesting her by killing him, but I can't at all, so I am stuck guilty and remorseful from hurting the woman I love. Any advice?
And all the issues she had for a while like being depressed and scared till about age 8 or 9. For a while now, when we had been making out and I would start foreplay. She seemed fine with it and enjoyed it.
So that went on for a while then I noticed she was acting odd and I asked what was wrong and she started crying and after some 15 minutes of crying, she told me how every time after I started foreplay, she remembers her childhood and the emotions and fears come rushing back.
I held her for an extra 10 or so min then when she was finished crying I apologized repeatedly while hugging her. She said it wasn't my fault, but I can't help feeling horrible for bringing back those feelings.
She assumed that after awhile those fears would go away, and she thought they had. But the night when I got to 3rd base for the first time she said she had relived those fears. She never told me about it and looking back Ive been doing that for over a month and because of me she has had to deal with those feelings.
Now I have no idea what to do to help or fix what I did. I know I won't do that again until she asks me to or I just won't. But what can I do? I honestly want to go back in time and prevent him from molesting her by killing him, but I can't at all, so I am stuck guilty and remorseful from hurting the woman I love. Any advice?