sosadtoday92
Sep 15, 2011, 08:25 AM
Friends for four years and over the last year became involved. We were telling each other we loved each other. I ended it (even though I sensed he wanted to), because he could not commit to being exclusive, nor the BF/GF titles. I wasn't angry at him, it just wasn't what I wanted. He called me and listed all the things he thought were wrong with me- needy, clingy, demanding, unstable, etc.. I didn't respond to his accusations. We were NC for 2 months, except every 10 days he would text 'How are you' and I would respond fine.
In August, we saw each other for the first time and hooked up. All that good NC down the drain. Our contact over the last month was friendly in group settings. Except, we were at a concert and he told me drunk that he wasn't sexually attracted to me out of nowhere and then made up a story that he had hooked up at the concert and a few hours later retracted it. Yet still I tried to remain friends.
Things have gotten worse. Last Tuesday he came over uninvited and we talked for an hour about nothing. I told him we should have a heart to heart, since we hadn't since the 'break up' and even that wasn't in person. He gave me a big hug and agreed.
Then on Saturday, there was a party. We said hello and I told him about my Saturday. I asked how his was and he said he was with a lady all day. I don't know why he would say that. He asked to play pool and buy me a drink and I declined both politely. He was wasted and stood behind me and gave me the finger . I said I was sorry If I did anything to get him angry or hurt him, but he needed to get his emotions in check. I couldn't believe that three days earlier he was at my house chill as can be. He said that all of the people I had met though him over the last year thinks it is weird I am still friends with them, the only reason I am still friendly with people he introduced me to is because I want to be in his world and he screamed he was completely done with me and doesn't want to hang out with me or be around me. I was shaking and tears filled my eyes. Friends came around me and then he came back at me and I told him to get the f away from me. If I wanted him back I would have just told him that and talked to him. Not created an evil plan to still be friends with people who live across the street and in my neighborhood that he is friends with. I am in shock, I loved him and we were friends for years. Now I am the biggest crazy villain. He is 30 and has a large drinking problem, which may have to do with his perceptions of me.
All I want is NC. Even if I can't go to places right by my house because we run in the same circle, I don't even care. Should I block him on Facebook and his calls? I don't want him to run around sand say I am a baby by doing that, because it does seem immature.
Why would someone react like this? Has anyone ever had someone's perception of you and your intentions be so far off the money? Have you had an ex be nice to you then days later hate you?
In August, we saw each other for the first time and hooked up. All that good NC down the drain. Our contact over the last month was friendly in group settings. Except, we were at a concert and he told me drunk that he wasn't sexually attracted to me out of nowhere and then made up a story that he had hooked up at the concert and a few hours later retracted it. Yet still I tried to remain friends.
Things have gotten worse. Last Tuesday he came over uninvited and we talked for an hour about nothing. I told him we should have a heart to heart, since we hadn't since the 'break up' and even that wasn't in person. He gave me a big hug and agreed.
Then on Saturday, there was a party. We said hello and I told him about my Saturday. I asked how his was and he said he was with a lady all day. I don't know why he would say that. He asked to play pool and buy me a drink and I declined both politely. He was wasted and stood behind me and gave me the finger . I said I was sorry If I did anything to get him angry or hurt him, but he needed to get his emotions in check. I couldn't believe that three days earlier he was at my house chill as can be. He said that all of the people I had met though him over the last year thinks it is weird I am still friends with them, the only reason I am still friendly with people he introduced me to is because I want to be in his world and he screamed he was completely done with me and doesn't want to hang out with me or be around me. I was shaking and tears filled my eyes. Friends came around me and then he came back at me and I told him to get the f away from me. If I wanted him back I would have just told him that and talked to him. Not created an evil plan to still be friends with people who live across the street and in my neighborhood that he is friends with. I am in shock, I loved him and we were friends for years. Now I am the biggest crazy villain. He is 30 and has a large drinking problem, which may have to do with his perceptions of me.
All I want is NC. Even if I can't go to places right by my house because we run in the same circle, I don't even care. Should I block him on Facebook and his calls? I don't want him to run around sand say I am a baby by doing that, because it does seem immature.
Why would someone react like this? Has anyone ever had someone's perception of you and your intentions be so far off the money? Have you had an ex be nice to you then days later hate you?