I have a pretty interesting situation and I need answers. I've been dating thi s guy for about two months now. We talk every day and have a great time together, but we've never done anything sexual. We've only kissed on the lips and cuddled. However, he is 28 and has told me he lived in Europe for most of his life where he had threesomes with a guy and other girls. He's willing to have a threesome with another guy. I asked him if he would with two girls and he said he would, he just said it would be uncomfortable and he's more comfortable with a guy. Also, he has a guy best friend who he talks about everything with. He's told me they took a bath together and smoke a blunt. He is willing for me to meet him and he knows that I'm his girlfriend so he wouldn't be hiding anything from me. Why would he tell me this if he wasn't gay? Wouldn't he be trying to hide things like this from me? I've asked him if he is gay before and he always gets mad. He compares him and his guy best friend to me and my best girl friend... like for example, he's seen his guy friend naked and I've seen her naked so it's no big deal. I've confronted him about being gay again and he said he doesn't like being aggravated about sex and being pushed to do things. Which, granted, I do frequently. He also says were in an "open relationship" and I can do things with other guys but he seems to get jealous sometimes. I have no idea what to do. I just don't think he would be this open with me about these things if he was gay. Maybe he's bi sexual or just doesn't like sex? He told me he thinks sex is nasty... so I don't know.

He may be bi, I would not say gay, since he appears to like women also. Of course, how and what he does in a three some is also a issue, if he just likes watching another guy doing things with the girl, may be his big turn on.

Guys do threesomes with girls and are not gay, they just don't have sex with the guy, merely share the girl.

It is not my opinion of a good relationship, but there are those that do.

So, he is being honest with you about his past behavior and what he does with his friends, and that is your reason for labeling him as gay? If he were a liar, would you think he were straight? I don't think so, I think you would be here asking "my boyfriend is hiding things and has too close of a relationship with his male friends...could he be gay"?

He seems to be completely comfortable with who he is (whomever that may be) and has shared his lifestyle with you. He doesn't seem to have the need to label it that you do. You know about his behaviors and his preferences, so make a decision based on that, and not on speculation about what you should call him. If his behavior is something you can't live with, move on, and if it is, then get busy accepting who he is.

Maybe the fact that he has spent most of his life in europe,reflects what he thinks about sex... although he also says that he doesn't like it and thinks it's nasty! Maybe that's why he hasn't made a move on you! He appears to be totally honest about his likes and dislikes,objecting to you constantly searching for the answers that you so desperately appear to want to hear,because he is not saying, what to you is the normal answer,you are not accepting these and accusing him of being gay,I am not surprised that he gets angry.He has been as open and honest about his sexual behaviour as he could be,also telling you that you both have an open relationship,basically anything goes.

Perhaps he has not had an exclusive experience only with a woman! Maybe he's frightened of failure,perhaps he has some medical/mental problems along those lines.

For now I think you need to drop the whole issue,accept what he has told you.You could however if your really sweet on this guy,stop this pressure your giving him and enjoy each others company showing him what being with a woman can be like,I am sure given time,with no aggravation from you,he will start to relax and things of a sexual nature will naturally happen for you both.

Its only been two months and he has said this is an open relationship. You will judge his sexuality for yourself later on after you have learned more. Until then, shy away from any nasty sex. Twosomes threesomes, doesn't matter. To early, and not enough info.