A few years back I became really good friends with this guy. Bestfriends. We were practically inseparable. Until he started dating one of my mates. Not long after they started going out he stopped talking to me all together, even ignoring me if I tried to say hi, and after a few days just turned round and told me he never wanted to see me again. This hurt me a lot. A month or so after he'd said that to me I was told that she had told him he wasn't allowed to see me any more after he'd gotten drunk and told her he'd rather be with me than her. I was so upset that she'd separated us, we'd only ever been friends and I wouldn't have tried to take him from her. I confronted her about it and she apologised and said she'd tell him it was okay to talk to me again. He started talking to me but seemed on edge and uncomfortable around me, nothing like it had been before. People kept telling me she still didn't want him near me, but I ignored it, she'd told me it was fine and I believed her. But somehow we kept on drifting apart until we were barely talking. Then when they broke up he came up to me and we started talking again, but it was just like it had been when we were first friends, easy, relaxed, and fun. I was really happy, and I started to think how much I actually liked him. I told one of my friends I had a crush on him but she went straight to his ex and told her. Before I knew what had happened they were back together, and he was ignoring me again. I really don't care if he's going out with her, I don't even care that I like him, its just a crush and I know I'll get over it. What I do care about though is our friendship, or at least how it was before. I miss it so much and I'd give anything just to have him as my friend again. But I keep thinking maybe we just can't be friends, like its just not going to work. I'm worried that he doesn't want me as a friend and that I'm just setting myself up to get hurt. I know he can be a jerk but this just seems to far and I don't know if its his way of trying to get rid of me. I'd really appreciate any advice on whether to fight for my friend or just let him get on with his life without me in it. Thank you xx

Just let him get on with his life; the insanity you describe has gone on long enough. I have never heard of anything like this before; is she so insecure that she banned him from talking to you, and he listened and did what she wanted?? Why would you want to be friends with anyone like this? It just is not worth the trouble and drama in your life it creates. I don't think you should consider friendship with this fellow at all.

Even if he begged, I would not consider it.
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