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max2000
Aug 30, 2011, 08:48 AM
My girlfriend propose me to marry her, but I'm really confused, I heard so many bad things about her through her best friends, even I know she has some attitude problem,and she is very stubborn person ,she want to do whatever she likes and the most important she want her freedom, I don't feel she is the best person in my life but same time, I don't want lost her, what should I do guys?

Cat1864
Aug 30, 2011, 09:12 AM
More of the story: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/heart-body-594312.html

Max, you haven't been dating her for very long. You have been questioning why you think you love her. You have held her responsible for a drunk forcing a kiss on her. All of these are reasons not to marry her.

In fact, a major red flag is that you don't think she is good to have in your life. If you feel she is wrong for you, let her go. Otherwise you are leading her to believe you are more invested in this relationship than you are. That is not fair to her.

Why do you want to keep a relationship with her? What are you getting out of a relationship with someone whose friends don't say very nice things about her and whose personality seems to clash with yours?

If you insist on keeping the relationship, explain to her that it is too soon to know if you would be able to build a successful marriage together. Explain your concerns and let her decide if you are worth her time and energy.

talaniman
Aug 30, 2011, 04:07 PM
If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. You were the one she proposed to say why are you listening to what everyone else has to say?

If you cannot make your own decision, then you don't deserve her.

kwils010
Sep 6, 2011, 11:15 AM
If you are already questioning, then you should not get married.

BK201
Sep 6, 2011, 11:34 AM
It takes a lot and lot for a girl to decide on marriage. As far as I have seen, they think many steps ahead of what we men think when the word marriage is presented to them.
So, when a girl says she wants to marry you, it just means she has decided to spend the rest of her life with you.
So, if you are uncertain and have doubts, I suggest you don't spoil her world any more. Either in or out. If you are giving yes as an answer, you are all in, no turning back, no doubts, no matter whoever says whatever.
But if you cannot do the above said, tell her no, and move out.

max2000
Sep 6, 2011, 11:40 AM
Thanks guys for your answers, better I say no to her, don't want ruin my future with her