I have been talking to an old girlfriend/friend for the past six months, who I haven't seen or talked to for four years. She kept saying she missed me and wanted to see me but I wasn't sure I wanted to go down the same road with her again as she has been out of my mind for three years. Anyway we finally went out and went to two bars, the second bar, she ended up talking to an old guy friend the whole time, so I told her I was tired and wanted to leave... without her.

We talked about this a few days later. I apologized and she said I should have taken her aside and told her I wanted to leave and she said she would have left with me. The reason I left wasn't all because she was talking to another guy, it was the fact that after not seeing me in four years, the night we hook up, she ends up talking with someone else instead of me. She doesn't get that point.

Anyway, since than we've continued to talk on a weekly basis and I asked her if she wanted to go to a party and she said yes but than warned me that she doesn't do well around people she doesn't know (people at the party). The next morning I called her and said maybe it was best if I went alone and she agreed.

When I talked to her again I told her we made the right decision because when I first got to the party at 5:00pm it was dead and boring but really picked up after dark and she got all mad at me saying I go out with her for the first time in four years and am bored but have the time of my life with other friends I haven't seen.

One more thing... I do enjoy talking to her over the phone but as I was going to let her go from a phone conversation she said "God XXX you always do that!" I asked what? And she said you always say "I'll let you go and than you hang up" Now I wasn't aware that I was doing this and apologized.

Long story short... It's been 4 weeks since the horrible first date, I'm not sure where I stand with her now and actually miss her but not sure if I should ask her out again or just move on. I'm pretty sure she just wants to be friends but were any of the things above signs that she may like me as more than a friend or was she just expressing how annoying my actions made her... I mean if we are just friends why is she getting upset about me cutting phone conversations short or having fun with other people?

If she can get upset about you cutting phone conversations short (did you really?) or having fun without her at a party (when she really didn't want to go because she wouldn't know anyone), what else will she complain about?

If I were you, I'd move on and cut my losses. Now, if only I had a daughter about your age...

Thanks Wondergirl! This just sucks! I had this girl completely out of my mind and life for three years after a rough break up. I only contacted her again to tell her a mutual friend of ours died, I wasn't really expecting to start talking to her again.

She has two children, her son who is now 22 has since moved out and her daughter who is now 14 and used to be my little angel. They made the break up very hard because I so loved those kids but her drinking kind of destroyed everything. Now, for some crazy reason my heart is stirring for her again even when I know things would end up the same if we got back together. Anyway, I'm taking her and her daughter to the movie on Saturday and then I'm probably going to move on and perhaps just be phone friends, if that is possible? because I do enjoy talking to her WHEN she isn't buzzed or cranky, those to traits I definitely haven't missed.

She should be in your mind, as a real mistake, I have no idea what possessed you to ask her out a second time.

But this one is so obvious I don't know what you want to hear ?

It's not going to be easy to get her out of your mind if you remain in touch. Since you can't handle being just friends, and you're behaving like you're in limbo, so it's very confusing for both of you.

I would say, either commit fully to her or get out by going back to 100% no contact. There's no reason for both of you to constantly be in limbo with each other.