Hey, for all sake I will say my ex gf's name is Amy... its not though. We started dating at the beginning of the summer, and we text every day for hours every day. We grew attached, and we fell in love... at least I thought she had. We never really got to hang out much, because she had to work all the time, but one night when we hung out afterward she sent me a text saying how much she loved me, and that she had never felt this way before about a guy, and that night was the most fun she had ever had.

The next week, on fourth of July, we went to a cookout with my family. Afterward we went to fireworks at my high school, and I kissed her during the fire works, and she got really mad cause she gets freaked out by public displays of attention. We made up that night, and she said it was fine.

The next week she goes on vacation, and she is going on vacation with her family, and their friends. One of the people was an ex boyfriend, who was two years older, and they got closer, but nothing happened, and that guy told her toward the end of the vacation, that he has a girlfriend.

The next day, my Amy broke up with me, and said she had too much going on to be in a relationship, but said she loved me, and she wanted to try us again but not right now. Nothing really changed, we still text every day, all day pretty much, but she kept changing her mind about things. One week its I love you so much, and I can't wait to see you, and the next its, I think we should just be friends, and she consistently tell me that we are going to see each other, but we never did, and she starts hanging out with her friends, and won't with me and says she is busy.

Her friend is dating a guy, they break up, and she hangs out with her friend, and that guy we will call him Rodger. Me and Amy kept going back and forth about how she feels about me. My opinion never changing, and she tells me she doesn't want to be in a relationship, and that week before that and the days after she was hanging out with Rodger.

I got mad that she was hanging out with him, and I haven't seen her since Fourth of July, almost a month and a half. She tells me how she could never date an ex of their best friend. Five days later, I'm on Facebook and see she is in a relationship with Rodger telling me five days prior she didn't want to be in a relationship with anyone.

So I go over to her house (she wasn't there). I gave her mom this present I had bought for Amy (autographed picture of this bball player she is obsessed with) and told her mom to tell Amy, I never wanted to see her again. Then she texts me later saying she was sorry, and all this stuff, and that Rodger asked her out, and she said yes. I told her how I felt. I was In love with her, and that she broke my heart, and then she told me to leave her alone.

That crushed me, although whenever I said something that I thought might make her react, or maybe show a little emotion, she just said that's fine, and that also killed me throughout the relationship. It's been three days, and the only two things I have thought about is football, and her, and the day I went to her house and stuff.

I asked my cousin, who was friends with Rodger, to tell him that I have no hard feelings toward him, and that I don't care as long as Amy is happy, and to not lose her like I did. The thing that pissed me off is that Amy refused to say on Facebook, that we were in a relationship, because her boss at her job said they didn't like them dating. I thought bull, at first, but I just said whatever.

I don't know what to do from here. She was my first true love, and I was open to being friends, before she started going out with Rodger. I feel sick constantly from it. The only thing I can think I did really wrong was tell her how I truly felt, that I was in love with her, that I would do anything for her, and I think I freaked her out with how much I cared about her.

I don't know if she is just confused, or what? I know she would love me again if we hung out, but that's not going to happen, and I know this Rodger guy is not better than me or anything. I'm not a guy who is all about myself or anything. I just don't know what to do from here. Please help me. My plan was to just wait, and have her come to me, but its tearing me apart. What do I do?


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Why would you want her back?

Your whole month long relationship as been a yo yo. You are an option, someone she talks to when there is no one else. Stop allowing her to play with you.
Get on with your own life.

Keep asking myself the same question

Every time you think you want her to come back, re read this post.

Im not going to pursue her or anything I'm just worried I might have classes with her... she told me she would never lie to me and I believed her cause I think she is that kind of person I think she is just extremely confused about what she wants and I haven't seen her in a long time and we both really enjoy each other I think she started to freak out by how attached I was and how much I loved her and she felt the same way when we were together and after for days and we wouldn't hangout for a week... week and a half and I think that made her over think things and during those times I would ask her to hangout and say how much I loved her all during when I didn't hang out with her for a month and didn't feel attached to someone she hadn't seen in a while... and she didn't want to hangout I think because we fought a lot over our status and she would change her mind... I know how stupid I am but she is beautiful,smart,funny,weird in a good way has the same religious and political beliefs and I've never felt the way I do when I'm around her and all I want to do is hold her and help her... but she doesn't let me... I just think everything would be all right if we saw each other... but at this point I'm not going to pursue her cause people tell me not to.and I'm mad at her about how she handled this but I just love her so much and I'm willing to let her go if that's what makes her happy and I know I can do that... I just want to know what I could do or if my only good option is to ignore her until she comes after me

You move on with your life knowing she may not come after you and let that be OK.
You are not letting her go thinking that if you ignore her long enough she will come back.
You let her go by letting her go and moving on.

I'm going to do that

I wish you well young man.
I'll be here if you need to vent

The good thing about first loves ending. The second love can appear.

How could I go about just being friends with this girl... but I'm going to wait at least three weeks to do that

You can't force friendship! Say hi when you see her, but do go about your life. You do have other friends, and activities to get into don't you??

You don't have to be friends with her. You have ulterior motives in doing so.
If you see her, speak and then go about your business.

I don't want to lose her as a friend I'm asking another girl out soon not to get back at her or anything just because I think this other girl is cute and smart... I don't need "Amy" in my life I want her in my life and if we try and we can't be friends or she doesn't want to that's fine

I think that is a mistake and you are lying to yourself. As long as you are around her you will not move forward and that certainly would not be fair to another girl you my be dating.

So you don't care if you are unfair to two females as long as you get what you WANT!!

Not very smart, but is kind of selfish, don't you think?