My relationship is 2 and half years old, and now my boyfriend doesn't give me more time like he does before. He doesn't talk much either. I thought he don't love me, but he says he loves me very much. I want my old boyfriend back. How can I turn him back into being concerned about me again.


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It seems to me that your boyfriend did what he had to do to win your affection. Now that he has the "prize" there is no reason for him to work that hard. Now take a look at yourself are you working as hard as you did the first year you met? Are you still presenting yourself in an attractive manner? Please realize this men are visual creatures; so take the time to look good; when he comes in from work... give him about 45-60 minutes. To relax before you bombard him with your issues of the day. Have a talk with your guy maybe he has a lot on his mind. Remember this always, take care of yourself, get a hobbie, enjoy and like yourself and last but not least"Presentation", Presentation, Presentation" 'cause men are ever so visual. Good luck!

Whatever is going on, then you have to talk to resolve it, and as in any relationship there are always adjustments to be made. I doubt you can go back to the way it was. Look first if there are changes in your lives, or stressful events, or difficult situations that you are going through, and discuss it. Often we think its someone's fault for changing, but sometimes its not. Its circumstances. Are there any? Any kids, or new babies??

You cannot "turn him back". If he is acting a certain way there is a reason, as far as what that reason is only he know, have you talked to him about it? Also consider that no one is alike another person, so he may be very much in love with you, but with you so focused on seeing that love a certain way, you may be missing it in other aspects. You should be able to trust him enough that him telling you that he loves you very much is enough for you to be happy and to return the love. However, if you are feeling that his cold shoulder is something that you don't see working out for you in the long term, then find someone who fullfills your most basic needs.

Good Luck,
Javi