In the past year my daughter has become more and more abusive. I gave her everything whilst at the same time trying to instill values in her. She now tells me to f-off and that I am F-ed... etc. For the last 10 years I have been working as a teacher and always do my best to support her. She has a learning disability and seems to choose the wrong boyfriends. She moved back home with me this year and the abuse got so bad that I just gave everything away and sold the rest for dirt cheap to escape her. She still does not have a job and blames her life situation on me. She is 25 and has had more opportunities given to her than most.

If I had not left then I never would have had any money left. Today I blocked her from speaking to me. I now have to get my own life back in order and rebuild financially. As long as she is around I will never be able to do that. My mother did a lot of questionable things but I believe that she always did her best and sure she made errors. I still love her and treat her with respect. Never in a million years would I tell my own mother to F-off or call her names to her face. Our parents should be treasured and treated with respect. When that respect is gone, I believe it is time to sever ties. We raised our children and did the very best that we could. Although I have severed ties for now; why do I feel guilty?

You feel guilty because you think you could have done more for here but didn't and I wish you wouldn't feel like that. It is not fair to you, she is not fair, but you must believe you are doing the right thing distancing yourself from her. She must be a very unhappy person and there is nothing you can say or do that will make her better if she is like that in her heart.

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A couple of questions that you may have answered, but I'm tired: Is she still living with you? Do you provide her with any financial suport? Is her father involved with her life?

Trust me, I have a son, who, at present (at 31) is behaving irrationally and never had before so I can understand how lost and helpless you feel.

Thank you.

I have a 21 yr old daughter who is very abusive and critasises ali I do for her and call me and her 3 siblings terrible names,shouts ,keeps everyone awake at night(including her little sister who has to get up for school),I am scared of getting evicted because of hher.. she swears all the time and acts bigger than everyone.. like she has authority over everyone else... Her father left us when she was 4 yrs old,she was fine until she was 15 ,when she started going off the rails and walking out of school and skipping school,she acts strange and talks babyish,, talks to herself all the time and has physically hurt me too..

I am at the end of my tether... I cry all the time and I really don't know how to get help