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courtneyaliciay
Aug 20, 2011, 09:38 PM
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We live in a town where there is not much to do and it's really boring around where we live. We're young, both 17, he's almost 18 and already graduated. I'm a senior this year. Lately, even when he's not with me, he's been saying he's bored all the time. And I can understand that.. this town is horrible and everyone is into drugs and alcohol. Today when he picked me up from work, I was in a completely good mood and happy to see him. When I was texting him he seemed fine and in a good mood, he was skating at the skatepark like he usually does. I noticed that something seemed wrong, and I asked if everything was OK. He said everything was fine, but he was bored. It just didn't seem like him. He's not into pills or anything like that.. we had a rocky relationship in the beginning but the night before and this morning, he was fine. We have also been both sick with the cold, so would that have anything to do with it? Grumpiness? Please help..

Wondergirl
Aug 20, 2011, 10:10 PM
Why not bake cookies or brownies together, or cook a dinner for your families? Go for a long walk? Play board games? Put together a 500-piece puzzle? Take turns reading a book to each other, alternating chapters? Ask your parents for outdoor jobs like weeding the garden or trimming shrubs?

BK201
Aug 20, 2011, 10:11 PM
He is just plain bored. Give him your support and help for him finding what he wants to do. Take a vacation and fill something new into his life.

redhed35
Aug 21, 2011, 03:47 AM
He's bored! God love him, and what excatly are you supposed to do about that.

There are lots of things to do in a small town IF you want too.

1. get a job, even a crap job is better then no job.

2. volunteer somewhere.

3. start a band.

4. find a junk yard car and fix it up.

6.start running, training.

His bordom is not your problem, if you start worrying about it and making it your problem, your making a rod for your back, you're the girlfriend not his mother, he's not 4! he's a grown man.

Cat1864
Aug 21, 2011, 05:43 AM
If this new and you have both been sick, then this may be temporary and part of recovering from an illness.

Red is very correct that his boredom is not your problem. You can help him figure out why he is feeling the way he does, but it is something only he can fix.

Does he have a job or work (such as doing work for a family business) that takes up some of his time?

It may also be a sign he is thinking about the future and letting it get to him. Since he has graduated, is he going to be going to college this year?

What kind of interests does he have other than skating?

Is he thinking about getting into drugs and alcohol to relieve the boredom? Is that what you are worried about?