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Sophie202
Aug 18, 2011, 07:43 AM
It's been a month that I am dating a guy... I was reading some articles on the internet and I found by hazard one question that he asked to your website 4 months ago and it's pretty intense. It's scarred me like hell because I when through a lot before I meet him and I am scarred that I am just a girl to pass his time to forget about the order girl. I know that I have a big connection with him and that’s scarred me….. I don’t want to be compare to an order woman….. and I’m scarred to open up my heart and that after the women come back in his life…..

Should I stop seeing him? Thanks for your answer.

This is the paragraphe that he wrote to your site 4 months ago:

My ex and I dated for 1 year and 8 months before she called it quits last month. We lived together, traveled together, did everything together.

We had both been going through "life crisis'' last year. I was building a new business and she hated her job and always contemplated what she wants to do with her life. We fought and nagged each other here and there, but mostly had a lot of fun and extreme passion for each other. We are both 26 by the way.

Last July, I broke my neck in a diving accident and was told I would never walk again. We had been fighting before I left for the cottage that day. She dropped everything and everyone around her to take care of me. While I was at ICU, she tended to my every need and spent nights on an uncomfortable chair trying to comfort me. When I was discharged, she took me home and continued to tend to my every need. She cooked, cleaned, bathed and even toileted me. She lost hours of sleep per night because I would wake up in pain every hour. She would then have to go to make me breakfast, drive me to rehab, pick me up, make dinner, clean up and do it over and over again.

Luckily, I started to walk again and gained much more independence and didn't need her to tend to me anymore. I truly believed that I was meant to be with this woman, I was ready to marry her, move to the country and have children with her (all of which I had trouble imagining before my accident). She is my savior and I believe I am walking because of her.

In the last few months, we started fighting more and more she started growing more distant. She moved back to her place in hopes that this would spark the romance and relationship back up. Next thing I know, she broke up with me and told me that she needs time to think and to be alone to figure out what she really wants.

I have been trying my best to give her distance and to forget about her and move on... but I always end up caving in and calling her to ask her to give us one more shot. Every time I get the same response. I think I took her for granted and she slowly pushed herself away from me.

I would do anything to get her back, but I feel she just doesn't want to be with me even though she says she still loves me and every once in a while she texts me to say how hard it is without me and that she misses me.

Can anybody just tell me what to do? I have tried everything and nothing works. The thought of a future without her tears my heart apart. I feel like half a man.

It was easier to learn how to walk again... then to go through being without her.

Homegirl 50
Aug 18, 2011, 10:01 AM
Has he ever talked to you about this lady? If you are concerned tell him you saw this and ask him if he is over her
This dating time should be getting to know each other and addressing concerns