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NicoleG1126
Aug 15, 2011, 08:51 PM
I need a little advice -- My boyfriend and I were dating for 5 1/2 years. He told me he wanted children, and to get married to me. But we got into a big fight one night and the next day I told him "we're done, I've had it", and then he asked me if I still had the same feelings for him as I did in the beginning of our relationship, and I told him "No!"..

After I said that, he said "I'm lost" and he seemed devastated. I didn't mean that I did not love him anymore, I meant it wasn't as exciting as it was in the beginning. Anyway, he broke up with and he told me. He can't let me go forever, because he loves me, but then the next minute he was ready to let me go forever.

I wanted to work it out, but he basically said he doesn't want to be together right now. He told me maybe in the future we would be together because he might feel differently. He became very bitter, not talking to me but still coming to my house, and sleeping in my basement. I also looked through his phone and saw he's been texting a girl he works with talking about his new apartment, and she said "I can't wait to sleepover". He said "yeah! i can't wait, are u gunna help me decorate my apartment?".

So I made him move all his stuff out of my house because I figured he can't live with me anymore if we're not together. He's been giving me mixed messages, when he came to my house to move out he said "I didn't want this, I just said time apart" so I told him "No, this is a break up...time apart would be different". So he moved out.

BUT he left some extra stuff at my house, and I texted him to get it, and he never answered me, I also called him, and he ignored my call. He wouldn't come to get the rest of his stuff until my father called him. I just want to know if you think we will end up getting back together? I really love him, and want us to fix this, but I don't know if he wants to anymore.

He's acting so bitter and angry, he doesn't even call or text me. He lost so much weight, he looks sickly. =/


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Alyssa14
Aug 16, 2011, 01:58 AM
I would try to talk with him. He is obvious sad about you and him breaking up. Now 5 1/2 years is a very long time and it is veryy likely that he will always have feelings for you. You guys have been together for a long time and one fight shouldn't make your love for each other go away.talk it out with him and see where it goes if it doesn't go well at least you can say you tried.

Do you know if the girl form work is a friend of his?

NicoleG1126
Aug 16, 2011, 08:05 AM
I tried to talk to him when we first broke up and I told him I wanted to work it out but he said he doesn't want to be together right now. He also told me he was unhappy with me and then about a week ago he told me he just said that because I said I wasn't happy with him for a while. I recently texted him and told him "After today you wont have to see or talk to me again but I want to wish u the best with your new apt. I truly want you to be happy" and he replied "not the way your acting, if so you would be different!". But I don't understand why he would try to put it all on me meanwhile I wanted to work it out and he knows that.

And I'm not sure if she's just a friend. =/ I'm thinking maybe he wants to be with her...

phillysteakandcheese
Aug 16, 2011, 08:39 AM
It sounds like there has been resentment building up for awhile in this relationship, and it finally exploded into this breakup.

I don't think he's coming back... at least not until he finds out if things with his new playmate work out.

talaniman
Aug 20, 2011, 09:41 AM
This is so over with, and he seems to have someone on the side any way. Stick a fork in this as its done. If the other chick doesn't work out, don't e there for him.

He obviously doesn't know that YOU know about her does he??