Lately, Ayla has developed this additude of 'I said do it NOW' and I know its normal for her age (7 years, almost but I got so fed up with it. And I know she is autistic, and has some issues, but autism isn't an excuse for this kind of additude.
We had a really good day, went to the science center, she got to meet the guy I have been trying to get to know, (nothing stable yet, we are friends at this point, but ayla adores him even after one day) and he took us out to lunch at peter piper, and she was SO good! I was so proud of her!

And I know that she was over stimulated, over tired, and just overwhelmed from the whole day by the end of the day (we do class Sunday through Thursday to accomidate appts on Friday, and stupid mommy felt we could still get school in this afternoon, after all our fun out) by the end of the day, baby girl was burnt out.

And I understand all that. But when I was on the TOILET, trying to.. well yeah, you know. And she comes out of her room whinning (in that lovely 2 year old voice she uses) about being thirsty. So I tell her (very nicely at this point) that she can go get a drink of water in the kitchen (she knows how lol) well then she pops off with 'I want YOU to get it for me right NOW!" stomping her little foot loud enough for me to hear thru the door. so i pop off with my own additude of What exactly do you want me to do about it from the toilet!?"
And she goes 'DONT TALK TO ME LIKE THAT MOMMY! "

so i calmly wipe my bottom, stand up and pull my pants up, and walk out the door, and at that point she knows something is gonna happen, and i walk into her room as she is running and jumping back into bed, and i take the blankets down and swat her little butt. (not hard at all, but she has always reacted badly to the idea of the spanking more than the spank its self) it was only one swat on her cheek, and she lost it. and i got close to her, and said 'dont you EVER speak to me like that again, i do not want to hear that additude ANYmore." and through tears she says 'im sorry mommy'

So... then of course, as always for me, I felt the enormous guilt of the spanking. Even when I KNOW that it was nessisary, it happens so RARELY for her, and I have only swatted her but a few times in her lifetime, only for very serious issues, like running off from me, reaching for a hot stove or oven, grabbing at my ciggarette when I was a smoker. But even when it is nessisary (in my opinion) it still fills me with guilt

On a side note, it seems the smack on her bottom gave instant results. After she stopped crying, she came out and said 'mommy I am sorry I'm up, but I am very thirsty can I have a drink?' lol. So I guess I got my point across about the behavior and additude. Hopefully it will stick.

I understand I have two little boys of my own 1yr n 3yr this Wesdnsdday and long story short you did the right thing she needs to know when she's throwing a fit and shw needs to know that its not appropriate for her to act this way to you my kids are quick tempered and if they can't have watever they want they'll throw things and scream but you showed her what was wrong and in the result it paid off I'm not saying you should be strict mean but you need to stick to your guns when she's throwing a temper tantrum and next time she "acts" nice reward her for it but not so much to where she expects it :) hope I helped and also when she cries give her time to cool off