nsd1983
Aug 13, 2011, 11:45 PM
I am 28 yr old male never married or never was in relationship. I am very stable and successful person though. I am from east India and do have some cultural influences but now that I am in America since last 5 yrs and will always be, things are different.
I am physician .
I have thought a lot about my decision about marriage.
I am almost concluding that marriage is not for me. I agree that I do have trouble maintaining relationships though I never had one seriously. I appreciate beauty of women a lot and I know that I will have a lot of women in my life. I just don't want to screw up my marriage because I can't give my full love to who ever it will be.. But if I do get married, I will however try to be as honest and loving to my wife.. But that will be only considered my duty and I don't know how much will I actually like it.Not to mention divorce is not in my dictionary.
I also hate responsibility that comes with marriage. I also don't like to have children.. I love them but that's again a lot of responsibility. Also after marriage, I will have to make any decisions considering the whole family. I think its like losing my freedom.
I haven't told my feelings to anybody so far because they will think I am crazy..
I am asking you this question because I am confused myself. Because I am already 28, I have to make a decision in next few months if I do want to get married.
I like being lonely and enjoy it.. Not sure if this is healthy though.. As you know my profession involves meeting lot of people and having good communication and conversation skills, I do those but as a part of my duty.. My personal life is lot different.
I don't want to regret later in my life because of the decision that I will be taking now.. I do know that this is the right time to make a decision.. I know that marriage with kids brings a lot of satisfaction, stability and happiness for everybody else.. Not sure of me.. I do feel lonely sometimes though.
Is this normal? Do you think my feelings and decisions will change in later part of the life? I have had debate with lot of people about these but all of them have been married and hence I get skewed answers."
I am physician .
I have thought a lot about my decision about marriage.
I am almost concluding that marriage is not for me. I agree that I do have trouble maintaining relationships though I never had one seriously. I appreciate beauty of women a lot and I know that I will have a lot of women in my life. I just don't want to screw up my marriage because I can't give my full love to who ever it will be.. But if I do get married, I will however try to be as honest and loving to my wife.. But that will be only considered my duty and I don't know how much will I actually like it.Not to mention divorce is not in my dictionary.
I also hate responsibility that comes with marriage. I also don't like to have children.. I love them but that's again a lot of responsibility. Also after marriage, I will have to make any decisions considering the whole family. I think its like losing my freedom.
I haven't told my feelings to anybody so far because they will think I am crazy..
I am asking you this question because I am confused myself. Because I am already 28, I have to make a decision in next few months if I do want to get married.
I like being lonely and enjoy it.. Not sure if this is healthy though.. As you know my profession involves meeting lot of people and having good communication and conversation skills, I do those but as a part of my duty.. My personal life is lot different.
I don't want to regret later in my life because of the decision that I will be taking now.. I do know that this is the right time to make a decision.. I know that marriage with kids brings a lot of satisfaction, stability and happiness for everybody else.. Not sure of me.. I do feel lonely sometimes though.
Is this normal? Do you think my feelings and decisions will change in later part of the life? I have had debate with lot of people about these but all of them have been married and hence I get skewed answers."