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figgle1
Aug 10, 2011, 05:29 AM
I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 months. We fell in love quickly and really loved being with each other. We both say I love you, most of the time he says it first. He buys me roses and pays for almost everything, he doesn't want me to spend a dime. He even pays for my kids to do things. They are 14 & 12. His kids are 17 & 19. My dilemma is when he is not with me all I think about is him. I mean really think about him. I want to be with him 24/7. I think about him so much that I get stomach aches and then I get crabby. All I want is for him to be around me. If I call him and he says he is hanging out with his son and daughter I am immediately jealous because I feel that I should be apart of that. How do I stop being like this and feeling like this. It is consuming my life. I don't want to lose he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I have never been treated so good by anyone. Please help... signed starving for attention.

talaniman
Aug 10, 2011, 12:09 PM
Just relax and enjoy yourself, but don't give up your life for a guy that you have only known for a couple of months.

Just stay cool, calm, and collected, and don't get carried away by this sudden feel good. Just remember we all have a good side, and you see his, but you haven't seen the bad side yet, but you will.

Pay attention, and don't let those feelings make you a blind desperate fool. That's not attractive, and would surely spoil all the fun.

Ayoungman
Aug 11, 2011, 06:06 PM
First off you can't help a feeling. Feelings are just there no one can help that. Honestly if your jealous over him hanging out with his kids and you not being invovled with that then tell him.Just don't say your jealous. There's no harm with being honest with your other half. Tell him that you would like to go spend time with him and his kids. But, make sure that your time is devoted to his kids.Spending time with them and getting to know them better.And getting to know you. Don't make it out to being a big deal those are his kids and if you two are going to be together then you should have days that you all can spend time together, apart, and with your kids, his kids, and then you seperatly with your kids and him with his. I understand the feelings of being apart from each other but, that's just called love and lust. Your relationship is still new and your going to feel jealous at times is normal. Most people think that when they get into a new relationship that all time should be devoted to that. When he's out doing something without you make it a point to go out and do something fun with just you and your kids. Make it a movie night or something. Something that will take your focus off him. Cause it's not healthy having each other crawling up each others butts 24/7. You have to have you time. Or time with your kids.

Homegirl 50
Aug 11, 2011, 06:28 PM
You've only been with this guy for 2 months. Relax. Get a grip on your feelings of jealousy about his kids. When was you last relationship before him?

He may be a nice gut but don't get so wrapped up you don't see things you may need to be seeing.