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kayla014
Aug 9, 2011, 11:44 PM
How do I tell my friend with benefits that I like him and would like a relationship, without pushing him away... we have had the subject come up once a while back, that we would keep things low key not tell anyone that we were seeing each other... But I feel like I'm ready for more now and I need to let him know, but I don't want to risk losing what I have with him now! Like if he is not ready for a relationship he would pull away so I don't get anymore atached?? How can I tell him?

amicon
Aug 10, 2011, 12:41 AM
You either tell him how you feel or you don't.

If you don't tell him now you will be stuck in the place you are- if he doesn't want to take things any further the sooner you know this the better- if he does,well then you get your wish.

Fr_Chuck
Aug 16, 2011, 07:44 PM
That is the risk, you understand FWB is not suppose to start having feelings, that was the agreement, in fact he is free to see others normally under a FWB. You merely are to share no commitment sex.

This is why it often does not work, one or both start having various feelings.

You tell him and risk it, or you don't tell

talaniman
Aug 17, 2011, 05:49 PM
So you are afraid to honestly express yourself to the guy you are screwing, because he might stop screwing you?

Take a chance, he might keep screwing you any way, relationship or not. Sorry for being so harsh, but when you agree to FWB, and then want more, things have a way of changing. Hope it changes for the better but you never know if you don't take a risk.