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Cookiemonster17
Aug 7, 2011, 05:52 PM
I been with my boyfriend for 1 year. He's a very sweet guy, but since we starting going out a lot of his friends that I don't know, started telling him lies, like saying they would see me with a guy, or that I'm hiding something.

I've been 100% really with him, and never cheated. I been in love with him even before we began going out. He's everything I ever wanted, but now we get into fights almost every week. He brings things up from my past and old fights we had, and most of the times he says things that really do cut deep, and hurt for many days.

I try my hardest to let go, he says sorry almost every time we get in to a fight but sometimes he doesn't. He tells me he believes me, but is still mad and still brings it up. I have a feeling that something is wrong with him. He takes his anger out on me.

He's a very nice guy, and he was my first everything. I love him so much I want to stay with him, but I also want to fine a way to help with his anger, and deal with his problems.



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lovedoctor111
Aug 10, 2011, 05:04 PM
You need to tell him that you both need to spend more time loving each other than fighting. You need to explain to him that it is a stress you and him shouldn't have to deal with.

To make it short tell him you need more love and less misunderstandings.

talaniman
Aug 13, 2011, 04:42 PM
First of all just taking his immature crap will not make him change his ways or behavior, nor will arguing.

Second his behavior is his responsibility to change, and not yours. Now you can tell him that his behavior makes you not want to be with him, and you wish he could chill, but whether he actually does anything or not, its you that has to make the decision to put up with him, or not.

Chevy223
Aug 15, 2011, 11:39 PM
Well,
Considering he was your first "everything" I am going to assume that he is the only person you have slept with.
By being argumentative and bring up things from the past, he is obviously looking to muddy the waters. Think about it- If you are 100% content and happy in a relationship, you have no reason to bring up negative things. Perhaps he is looking for an out. Don't kid yourself, always go with your gut.