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sgtoreoz
Aug 5, 2011, 01:10 PM
Two weeks ago I was introduced to this girl, She was cute, and we have so much in common. After texting/talking for 3 days I asked to go on a date with me. Date went VERY well and we scheduled a second one two days later. That date was the best one, she told me that it was the most fun she's ever had on a date. After the date we went and made out a bit, and she was going to spend the night, but she had work the next morning and she lives kind of far away. Well as she was leaving she got a call from her mother telling her that her mother and her mother's b were fighting. She went home to deal with that pretty quick.

Fast forward a couple hours, we had a date planned for the next night also, (I planned on asking for a relationship on that date, after only a week.. ) she texted me and said that she probably won't be able to make that date because she got into a huge fight with her mom's boyfriend and she doesn't know if her mom will let her go (She's 17 about to be 18, and I'm 20). I text her the next day and she's weird about it, tells me she can't go because she basically got kicked out and has to deal with that. We text off and on that day, then I get a text telling me that she really really likes me but just can't handle a boyfriend with everything that's going on, but that she wants to continue hanging out because I'm super fun to hang out with. I text her back, and spill my guts (tell her I really like her, and that I was going to ask her out that night) I then tell her that I'm not interested in friendship and if that's what she wants then we're done. About an hour later I realize what I did and text her back apologizing saying that I'd love to hang out with her some more. She got really excited and told me that when everything blows over she wouldn't mind dating me, I tell her that she can have her time and that we'll just hang out in the time being. She also told me that she didn't want anything to change (kissing, cuddling, etc).

In the days following this conversation our conversations have become bleak, she fills them with one word responses and takes a bit to text back. I also know that she's living back at home with little problems.

Now a little about her: She was always interested in how I felt about her, but I was always mysterious about it. She likes to have fun, she thinks I'm VERY attractive, but again she was always focused on how I felt about her. She also JUST got out of a 5 month relationship, and I'm pretty sure she's still not over that guy.

Like I said it has basically died in the past couple days today would be the third day that we don't even talk to each other.

My question is, did I kill it all by telling her that I liked her so soon? And should I just get over her, or just wait it out? Was I some type of rebound?

I wish
Aug 5, 2011, 01:24 PM
You should be able to be honest with your feelings with her without feeling like you killed it.

The problem I see is that you don't want the same things. You're not on the same page.

You have two choices. Either accept the conditions that she laid out and hang out with her the way she proposed.

Or, put your foot down like you did saying that you don't want a friendship, but you want something more.

Choices.

crasy4uboy
Aug 22, 2011, 03:46 PM
Through everything be completely honest : )

talaniman
Aug 23, 2011, 01:22 PM
I think you are over reacting, and need to slow down, and stop pushing so hard.

To much, to fast, crash and burn

I mean be real, what do two strangers know about each other in a week or two, and a few dates??

ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!! There is more to learn, and discover if you slow down, and stay cool, calm, and collected.