My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months, and I just found out today that he wanted to break up. I asked him why, and he said that things have changed over that past two weeks, and that he felt like he wanted to love me, but he couldn't, and I don't know what to do.

He is my only joy in life, and he is my first love, and I'm scared to lose him. I also talked to one of my friends about it, and he said that my boyfriend is just confused, and that he doesn't really know what he has until he loses it.

We both decided to wait and let him think for a couple weeks on the thought. That night we chatted like nothing had happened, and he seemed like his old self, I hoped that he may have actually changed his mind.

Usually during chats I'd say mew and he would call me by my pet name, and we would say I love you, and stuff like that, but when ever I do that now (after that day), he never called me by my pet name, he never say "I love you" after I did.

I'm afraid of losing him... help me...



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Sadly,his feelings are changing and it seems it will end in a break up.

I would suggest you save yourself some time and go for a break up now-the quicker you will heal and be able to move on.

I think you should be talking, not going on like nothing has happened, because obviously, something HAS changed. Find out what it is and face it, not try sweeping it under a rug.

It sounds like he tried to break it off with you and you wouldn't let him go. Instead of being strong, he felt sorry for you and agreed to not leave you just yet. Now he has to go through breaking up with you again, so now he's being distant and cold, and hopes you'll get it when he tries again.

Your relationship is one important part of your life, but shouldn't be your entire life. Shouldering him with "He is my only joy in life..." puts an unfair burden on him for your happiness that simply drives him away.

Clinging to fear of losing him will keep you unhappy. You need to find other joys in life, so that you can be independently happy.

phillysteakandcheese's response is as best as I would view your situation. If things are going to be fixed between you both then you need to let him know calmly, in a separate conversation - maybe face to face at a mutual meeting spot in town - where you stand and how you feel. Ask him of his issues and tell him you're willing to work on them for the relationship's sake. After that, I don't see how you could do any more without starting to cause more pain for you both. I know from first hand experience that when someone has decided that it's time to move on, mopey texts and pet names and throw-backs are the last thing they want to receive. Be strong, assertive, reasonable and accepting. If things continue to look dire then you really will need to get out sooner rather than later; you will only hurt yourself.

Best of luck, miss.