xxikayixx
Aug 1, 2011, 01:32 PM
I have known my BF for 13 years and about 2 years ago started dating. Before we hooked up he had a few night stands with this one girl. He made it a point to ask her before they did anything if she wanted children and if she got pregnant what she would do. She said she wasn't ready for a child and she was on the pill and nothing would happen. He told her he can not have any children because he has such a hectic life he can barely have time to have a G/F. I knew of his situation of having his plate overfilled with stuff to do but I love him and I am willing to deal with his lifestyle. Well we hooked up and are as happy as ever and all of a sudden she comes to him and says she is pregnant and keeping the baby. That she wants my boyfriend in her life, and he has to be there for her. Basically she had the baby to try to keep my boyfriend trapped. Anyway.. We have gone to court and had everything set up regarding communication, co parenting and scheduling. The problem is she can't remember what she says 5 min before she says something else. We also document every conversation, every time she calls or texts, every harassing word or vulgar word, she does talk bad about my boyfriend in front of the child. We have taken every precaution that we can to make this issue not happen but it does anyway. We do not want to take the child away from the mother because we believe every child deserves both parents. She is a selfish, self centered, conniving woman who needs a reality check.
The BM drama has increased severely. The child is now 2 and whenever she asks any question, regardless of the answer it isn't what she wants to hear. She always calls names and says we are not treating her with respect when we do nothing but go out of our way to try to help her when she needs it. When she doesn't get the answer she wants she calls my bf's mother and harasses her till she gets what she wants. We have an agreement from court that she is to let us know immediately when something happens to the child which in one month, he has chomped down on a chlorine tablet, swallowed her fathers medication and the other day sliced his hand open on a " plastic bottle". When we ask what happens she makes us beg to get the information out of her, and then she calls us highly vulgar names for NO reason.. then texts for hours about how she's the mother of his child and she deserves the highest respect and all of his time. She has severe mental issues and has no control over her feelings. She also complains everyday how I am a stranger and she wants to have a meeting with me. I told her that if she can treat the father of the child with respect for one month I would agree to sit down with her, but she can't refrain from talking shi*t for ONE HOUR... HOW do I go about dealing with this?
The BM drama has increased severely. The child is now 2 and whenever she asks any question, regardless of the answer it isn't what she wants to hear. She always calls names and says we are not treating her with respect when we do nothing but go out of our way to try to help her when she needs it. When she doesn't get the answer she wants she calls my bf's mother and harasses her till she gets what she wants. We have an agreement from court that she is to let us know immediately when something happens to the child which in one month, he has chomped down on a chlorine tablet, swallowed her fathers medication and the other day sliced his hand open on a " plastic bottle". When we ask what happens she makes us beg to get the information out of her, and then she calls us highly vulgar names for NO reason.. then texts for hours about how she's the mother of his child and she deserves the highest respect and all of his time. She has severe mental issues and has no control over her feelings. She also complains everyday how I am a stranger and she wants to have a meeting with me. I told her that if she can treat the father of the child with respect for one month I would agree to sit down with her, but she can't refrain from talking shi*t for ONE HOUR... HOW do I go about dealing with this?