My wife loves to scratch and bite.. after sex I feel like I am torn apart. I haven't said anything about it.. is it normal? She bites really hard specially when she ***.. I love the way every thing is going but I feel if I say any thing it may disrupt our momentum? Can you shed some lights?

You have to have a 'safe' word (like STOP) and she has to abide by it. Much harm could be done if this practice continues. Don't get me wrong, it is wonderful that she gets right into it, but could take a junk out of you if not careful. She is not in her right mind during orgasm.

Tick

It gets worse during 2nd session. Will it impact our love making session?

It gets worse during 2nd session. Will it impact our love making session?

Of course it will impact your love making session, Helpful, but you two have to have some kind of control over the situation, she has to have some kind of control over the situation unless you want to be maimed and scarred for life, and it could happen. Surely she can enjoy or orgasm without biting. I have been known to nibble a bit but not, for heavens sake, bite.

Tick

I hope I am wrong here but I am starting to have some concerns on several levels - I've been an investigator too long, perhaps, or have good spidey senses.

At any rate the questions are beginning to make my uneasy - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marriage/curious-sex-after-marriage-589292.html.

Moderator?

EDIT: I find some need on part of OP to discuss frequency, etc. Seems out of place but... I've been wrong before.

Will it impact our love making session?Hello guy:

I don't know what you mean by "impact", but it already IS impacting your relationship, otherwise you wouldn't be complaining about it.

But, I'm wondering WHY you didn't notice this BEFORE you got married..

excon

The issue here is that everyone has different fetches or desires. These need to be discussed and worked out.
And needed to be long before now.

Have you TALKED with her about it---OUTSIDE of the bedroom?

Best way to let someone know what you enjoy and what you don't, is not by pointing out the negatives, but by providing an alternative. For example "I much prefer it when you run your fingers down my back as opposed to scratching it". Always add on a compliment ("It's really sexy when you...").

If you do have a safe word, make it something that you wouldn't normally utter during sex (I've had Mango and Dumbledore, my current one is MegaDrive), because we often utter things out in positive pain, or sadomasochistic roleplay.

Good luck!
X Dani

Yes, in many practices, from playing tie up to rough sex, no two people are the same, and one may be often surprised at who likes what behind closed doors.

The issue is, to talk about it, set up guidelines and to always have a safe escape word to use.

Stop is not always the word, since some people like to play with one acting like it is no no no, to them the safe word may be pizza or any word you both agree to use

Not clear... what is discussed here?