calvinist
Jul 25, 2011, 03:00 PM
Hi folks ,well a wee bit about me.
I'm 37, I was married for 5 years before getting divorced and have a 10 year old boy. I thereafter had a serious relationship for a further four years and lived together before she broke up with me and pursued someone else.
Following that I had a number of meaningless short term sexual encounters which I used [wrongly] to make myself feel better and more attractive.
I met a girl about 6 months ago and we seemed to hit it off. We are the same age and have similar interests and had our fair share of failed relationships. We were happy whether it was going for meal or cinema or just a walk down the road. We both had insecurities and spoke about it and I constantly reassured her about how I felt towards her.
I learned from mistakes I had made in previous relationships to make this one work, however about 1 month ago I noticed she started to seem disinterested and distant. She stopped responding to texts and made excuses not to see me.
I spoke with her about it and she said her job and outside interests [she volunteers for charity radio] had squeezed her time.
She texted me the other day to end our relationship, saying I was a great guy and too good for her but she felt it wasn't going to work. After several messages she ended the relationship and we have had no contact since.
Im sure its just girlie code for ''I've lost interest in you/no longer fancy you'' or ''I've met someone else but can't tell you''
Its disappointing as her previous long term boyfriends have been disasters. I decided he was gay and the other one sapped her self confidence and called her names yet she gave them 9 years of her life.
I treated her with respect and she commented I made her feel like a princess yet I barely got 6 months.
Now I'm on the internet seeking answers. I'm such a loser.
Thanks for your time.
I'm 37, I was married for 5 years before getting divorced and have a 10 year old boy. I thereafter had a serious relationship for a further four years and lived together before she broke up with me and pursued someone else.
Following that I had a number of meaningless short term sexual encounters which I used [wrongly] to make myself feel better and more attractive.
I met a girl about 6 months ago and we seemed to hit it off. We are the same age and have similar interests and had our fair share of failed relationships. We were happy whether it was going for meal or cinema or just a walk down the road. We both had insecurities and spoke about it and I constantly reassured her about how I felt towards her.
I learned from mistakes I had made in previous relationships to make this one work, however about 1 month ago I noticed she started to seem disinterested and distant. She stopped responding to texts and made excuses not to see me.
I spoke with her about it and she said her job and outside interests [she volunteers for charity radio] had squeezed her time.
She texted me the other day to end our relationship, saying I was a great guy and too good for her but she felt it wasn't going to work. After several messages she ended the relationship and we have had no contact since.
Im sure its just girlie code for ''I've lost interest in you/no longer fancy you'' or ''I've met someone else but can't tell you''
Its disappointing as her previous long term boyfriends have been disasters. I decided he was gay and the other one sapped her self confidence and called her names yet she gave them 9 years of her life.
I treated her with respect and she commented I made her feel like a princess yet I barely got 6 months.
Now I'm on the internet seeking answers. I'm such a loser.
Thanks for your time.