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knifecalledlust
Jul 25, 2011, 12:41 AM
OK, so I had this friend, and we jad afew problems, and unless its completley necessary to tell them I don't reall want to. So I was really angry, not entirley aboutour problems but just in general, and she was also angry with me, but wouldn't tell me why. So we ended up getting in a big fight, wich only lasted like 45 seconds. But I said some things I regret and looking back, thinking that it was something I would never say, so we promised never to speak to each other again and I've already tried to apologise once, but things went badly. So basically my question is: a: should I apologise again and b: how should I go about doing it

Thanks

joypulv
Jul 25, 2011, 01:54 AM
You apologize by saying you are sorry.
You don't apologize by saying I'm sorry but.
In other words, you don't want to make it worse by saying why you said all those things in the first place (you made me so mad, you started it, blah blah) or even what was wrong with you that day, or anything.
Just sorry. You can add I miss you, I wish it had never happened, I can't sleep thinking about what I have lost.

Kcl2.0
Jul 27, 2011, 04:18 PM
K, I forgot the password to my account so this is me now by the way

Knife called lust
Ps thanks

Handyman2007
Jul 28, 2011, 06:25 AM
Time heals all is an adage but not all of the time. Give it a rest for a while. Let things cool down. Don't raise the issue about the disagreement again. If she truly is a friend, it will work itself out.

Kcl2.0
Jul 28, 2011, 07:12 AM
She told me she hates me, were not friends anymore, and it's been about two and a half months since we last talked. I just want to get this off my chest. Unless Id only be causing more damage

joypulv
Jul 28, 2011, 08:28 AM
Let it out here and elsewhere, with friends. You've done all you can do. Yes, you'd be causing more damage. You tried to apologize once and it didn't work (not sure if you did it right or wrong). If you made excuses for your anger or what was said or said she said stuff too, that was wrong. So you learn and move on.

Kcl2.0
Jul 28, 2011, 03:22 PM
Thanks, that sounds like I makes sense. You guys,

Kcl2.0
Jul 29, 2011, 09:14 PM
By the way all I did was ask her For a reason for why she said she hated me. (that was even before the fight) and she said shed think about it, then the next day she was just pissed and wouldn't talk to me