JESTENJERREAU
Jul 24, 2011, 12:23 AM
I am a 28 year old male living in Woodland Hills CA. In March of 2009 my then girlfriend M {Name removed} of 10 years, gave birth to our first Daughter S {name removed} (I know the name is ridiculous, but in essence I wanted everything for her). Now I had just been released from jail on Valentines Day, after a fight M{Name removed} & I got into at my house in December. Now at the time, I had it in my head that it was because of her hormones & since I had a warrant for a traffic violation they had to take me in to see the judge. That, plus D.V. had me in Jail for almost three months, I almost died thinking I would miss the birth of my child in there.
On 3-11-2009 at 3:11am S{Name removed} was born & I just wanted to hold her for ever. But also, during the birth M's attitude was a little more then that of a women giving birth, so the doctor took a urine test in for a drug screening (Since it was a family doctor & had knowledge of M's drug history in the past). 3/13, the results came back positive for Methamphetamine & DCFS was notified. They came into the Hospital, non-hostel and genuinely concerned for the care of all parties involved. S{Name removed} had not tested positive for any drugs. DCFS asked us a few questions like "how long had M{Name removed} been using" and "if I had known or had been using myself"? She stated that had been using off & on for the past 2 months without my knowledge, I also stated I had no privy to her involvement (Though I was aware of her past) & that I don't do drugs & would be willing to test for them on demand. They asked for us to meet them at there offices to discuss the matter, but we would have to allow our child to remain in the Nic-u (since she had low blood sugar) until they could determine a solution. At DCFS offices M , M's mother) & I joined with several members of DCFS. They said that we would be allowed to go back to the Hospital to prepare our child's return home with us after questioning & establishing a "case plan." M agreed to attend out-patient rehabilitation & that I would give them a drug test on demand. Recently released from jail, I had lost my apartment & we discussed plans to move into M's mother's home for the time being. But during the agreement M's mother & M began going back and forth, M's mother angry about M's drug use was very questionable about having us there saying "yes" but adding allot of concern about M's behavior in the past on drugs. M was crying uncontrollably pleading for her mother to stop questioning her intentions & just accept the departments offer. I hadn't just lose my apartment & job, also had not spoken with my mother in 4 years had nothing but them as far as reliability. After 25 minutes of arguing, I asked DCFS to understand the gravity of the situation & shock as the reason for M's mother's out burst.
After she had agreed to the move DCFS stated they would be coming to the house weekly & randomly for check-ups which also disturbed M's mother quite a bit (Because she wished to get the home in order before they came in to inspect the home. They asked for us to leave the room for a moment while they talk it over, & seeing them become impatient with M's mother, I knew they were not letting us leave with our child, which they wouldn't based on the meeting & stated that now M would have to attend a live-in rehabilitation for 3 months & that I would have to find sufficient housing for my Daughter if I was to regain custody at the scheduled court hearing in 30 days as they apologize for making things hard on me (understanding my difficult battle that lay ahead). As we sat in our cars in the parking lot, it hit me & I began to cry, then M began to cry as well, looking over to M's mother's vehicle we see her crying too, M got out of the car to embrace Mother saying she was sorry. We returned to the hospital to see our child before the department discharged her (They allowed us to do so), I couldn't even get out of the car as M & her Mother went to see S. I called my friend to see if he had my mother's phone number, since he is my best friend he did.
For the first time in 4 years I called to speak to my mother, tell her I had a child & told her DCFS took her away from us & I couldn't get her back till I had a home to take her to.
My Mother said her door was open to me & my child. In the next 2 weeks, M entered her program, I had moved into my Mother's house & on week 3 I was lost on my way to court (since the first time I went it was with my mother who knew freeways) I received a call from my lawyer who wanted to congratulate me on gaining custody of my child & that I could stop getting lost on the freeway & get back to pick up my child.. I cried for a bit on the side of the freeway for 2 reasons,1: I got my baby back! & 2: I was lost. After finding my way back to the Valley I went to pick my mother up & proceed to the offices where S was being dropped off.
Now having my child in my mother's home, I bathed,fed,changed,swaddled,burped,& cleaned bottle's happily for her while attending family preservation, parenting, & therapy counseling at my house weekly from I.M.C.E.S. (a separate bureau who specialized in those fields), & after 30 days M was able to leave for a couple of hours to visit.
Upon completing her courses, the courts asked me what I would like to do when the Mother
was released. I stated that she was an important factor in our child's life because it's our child, also a female needs her mother as capable as I knew she would be at her best. I requested for the Mother to be allowed to move in with me at my Mother's home. It was granted. We all attended the weekly meeting to discuss our plans for raising S, & after 2 months of living together M became pregnant again ("HEY WE WERE YOUNG"). Preparing for a second child while attending these meetings, while searching for suitable work was hard. M became angry at the meeting because the discussions would make her feel like she was being attacked. At our WIC appointment the office upon weighing S said she was not the size she should be which raised suspicions on my feedings. So DCFS had sent someone out to look at the child & check her food rations, I had plenty but I was not measuring the bottles right (though I would feed her twice as many times as you would normally have to). It was not seen as negligence because I admitted my stupidity, at the next doctor's appointment she was deemed in great physical condition, happy &
healthy.
But M began fighting with me over our sessions & told the counselor, I was never home & wouldn't take care of my child (though my Mother said different & at this time was becoming disenchanted by our presence). The court allowed M to move with S to her Mother's home. & that's only the start..
LONG STORY SHORT... Kind of.
I ended up moving into M's mother's home, paying rent, taking the bus to the train to another bus to work 13 hour days in Hollywood , & attending weekly meetings, only to come home & have M either be gone or have her on her way out to "go to the store for 3 hours" or "attend a N.A. meeting." To leave home at 6:00am only to return anywhere between 11:30pm & 1am, then have her leave for hours got old by the 3rd month of living there. One night while returning home from work M said she was going to a late meeting, "it was 11:30p" I followed her outside (as her Mother was looking over S while she slept), I observed M deny a taxi she had called to fool her mother to wait for her real ride. Upon seeing me approach she got loud & started punching me in my face while I was telling her I knew what she was doing. During the altercation I pulled her hair & grabbed her arms to protect myself from further assault, in which she lost balance & fell on her butt to the ground. She began running back toward the house calling the police screaming to dispatch that I was chasing her & hitting her (she was 7 months pregnant).
Since then I had told DCFS that I suspected M was using again & showed them a device (homemade) I had found. M assaulted me in front of DCFS supervisor, she made no report, but filed a restraining order (without authorization from her superiors or the courts) & told M that if she did not sign the order she would lose rights to her child & unborn child. M signed & the police had me pack my things & leave.
Due to the effect I lost my job my rights my home my sanity & hope for DCFS.
After I also would come to discover that all suspicions of M using were right & would always notify the department, do there investigative work for them & uncover the truth, though they never gave my parental rights back, because the summary reports were riddled with lies to cover up the wrongs of there department to control this case. Basing all there petitions on presumptions & stories from before our first child's birth mixed in with M's (Now admitted) untruths as factual.
A week ago after our 3rd child ("I KNOW, I DON'T LEARN") & M's several attempts to cure her disease, DCFS came into our home with no warrant or cause & took our 5 day old infant (3 Daughters) without paper work or notification of where they were taking her, based on M being thrown out of treatment after she used. DCFS only has 1 dirty test from M going on 3 years, in August of 2010 they took our children from her after they caught wind of my being in the home though the courts restraining order was dropped a week after DCFS made Mn file it. & 2 months after the department had custody of our than 2 children (S & K), they ended up hospitalized for bone density, malnourishment, & depression. That was the second home they sent our children to at the first the found signs of abuse. HOW ARE WE ENDANGERING THEM MORE THAN DCFS ALREADY HAVE BASED ON ASSUMPTION, WHEN WE HAVE PROOF OF There's? & the investigator that came to my home after the birth of our third child was rude & used racist comments in front of my family, because I am African American & M is not..
Is purgery, endangering children, malpractice, mental anguish grounds for taking a Civil Court approach.
On 3-11-2009 at 3:11am S{Name removed} was born & I just wanted to hold her for ever. But also, during the birth M's attitude was a little more then that of a women giving birth, so the doctor took a urine test in for a drug screening (Since it was a family doctor & had knowledge of M's drug history in the past). 3/13, the results came back positive for Methamphetamine & DCFS was notified. They came into the Hospital, non-hostel and genuinely concerned for the care of all parties involved. S{Name removed} had not tested positive for any drugs. DCFS asked us a few questions like "how long had M{Name removed} been using" and "if I had known or had been using myself"? She stated that had been using off & on for the past 2 months without my knowledge, I also stated I had no privy to her involvement (Though I was aware of her past) & that I don't do drugs & would be willing to test for them on demand. They asked for us to meet them at there offices to discuss the matter, but we would have to allow our child to remain in the Nic-u (since she had low blood sugar) until they could determine a solution. At DCFS offices M , M's mother) & I joined with several members of DCFS. They said that we would be allowed to go back to the Hospital to prepare our child's return home with us after questioning & establishing a "case plan." M agreed to attend out-patient rehabilitation & that I would give them a drug test on demand. Recently released from jail, I had lost my apartment & we discussed plans to move into M's mother's home for the time being. But during the agreement M's mother & M began going back and forth, M's mother angry about M's drug use was very questionable about having us there saying "yes" but adding allot of concern about M's behavior in the past on drugs. M was crying uncontrollably pleading for her mother to stop questioning her intentions & just accept the departments offer. I hadn't just lose my apartment & job, also had not spoken with my mother in 4 years had nothing but them as far as reliability. After 25 minutes of arguing, I asked DCFS to understand the gravity of the situation & shock as the reason for M's mother's out burst.
After she had agreed to the move DCFS stated they would be coming to the house weekly & randomly for check-ups which also disturbed M's mother quite a bit (Because she wished to get the home in order before they came in to inspect the home. They asked for us to leave the room for a moment while they talk it over, & seeing them become impatient with M's mother, I knew they were not letting us leave with our child, which they wouldn't based on the meeting & stated that now M would have to attend a live-in rehabilitation for 3 months & that I would have to find sufficient housing for my Daughter if I was to regain custody at the scheduled court hearing in 30 days as they apologize for making things hard on me (understanding my difficult battle that lay ahead). As we sat in our cars in the parking lot, it hit me & I began to cry, then M began to cry as well, looking over to M's mother's vehicle we see her crying too, M got out of the car to embrace Mother saying she was sorry. We returned to the hospital to see our child before the department discharged her (They allowed us to do so), I couldn't even get out of the car as M & her Mother went to see S. I called my friend to see if he had my mother's phone number, since he is my best friend he did.
For the first time in 4 years I called to speak to my mother, tell her I had a child & told her DCFS took her away from us & I couldn't get her back till I had a home to take her to.
My Mother said her door was open to me & my child. In the next 2 weeks, M entered her program, I had moved into my Mother's house & on week 3 I was lost on my way to court (since the first time I went it was with my mother who knew freeways) I received a call from my lawyer who wanted to congratulate me on gaining custody of my child & that I could stop getting lost on the freeway & get back to pick up my child.. I cried for a bit on the side of the freeway for 2 reasons,1: I got my baby back! & 2: I was lost. After finding my way back to the Valley I went to pick my mother up & proceed to the offices where S was being dropped off.
Now having my child in my mother's home, I bathed,fed,changed,swaddled,burped,& cleaned bottle's happily for her while attending family preservation, parenting, & therapy counseling at my house weekly from I.M.C.E.S. (a separate bureau who specialized in those fields), & after 30 days M was able to leave for a couple of hours to visit.
Upon completing her courses, the courts asked me what I would like to do when the Mother
was released. I stated that she was an important factor in our child's life because it's our child, also a female needs her mother as capable as I knew she would be at her best. I requested for the Mother to be allowed to move in with me at my Mother's home. It was granted. We all attended the weekly meeting to discuss our plans for raising S, & after 2 months of living together M became pregnant again ("HEY WE WERE YOUNG"). Preparing for a second child while attending these meetings, while searching for suitable work was hard. M became angry at the meeting because the discussions would make her feel like she was being attacked. At our WIC appointment the office upon weighing S said she was not the size she should be which raised suspicions on my feedings. So DCFS had sent someone out to look at the child & check her food rations, I had plenty but I was not measuring the bottles right (though I would feed her twice as many times as you would normally have to). It was not seen as negligence because I admitted my stupidity, at the next doctor's appointment she was deemed in great physical condition, happy &
healthy.
But M began fighting with me over our sessions & told the counselor, I was never home & wouldn't take care of my child (though my Mother said different & at this time was becoming disenchanted by our presence). The court allowed M to move with S to her Mother's home. & that's only the start..
LONG STORY SHORT... Kind of.
I ended up moving into M's mother's home, paying rent, taking the bus to the train to another bus to work 13 hour days in Hollywood , & attending weekly meetings, only to come home & have M either be gone or have her on her way out to "go to the store for 3 hours" or "attend a N.A. meeting." To leave home at 6:00am only to return anywhere between 11:30pm & 1am, then have her leave for hours got old by the 3rd month of living there. One night while returning home from work M said she was going to a late meeting, "it was 11:30p" I followed her outside (as her Mother was looking over S while she slept), I observed M deny a taxi she had called to fool her mother to wait for her real ride. Upon seeing me approach she got loud & started punching me in my face while I was telling her I knew what she was doing. During the altercation I pulled her hair & grabbed her arms to protect myself from further assault, in which she lost balance & fell on her butt to the ground. She began running back toward the house calling the police screaming to dispatch that I was chasing her & hitting her (she was 7 months pregnant).
Since then I had told DCFS that I suspected M was using again & showed them a device (homemade) I had found. M assaulted me in front of DCFS supervisor, she made no report, but filed a restraining order (without authorization from her superiors or the courts) & told M that if she did not sign the order she would lose rights to her child & unborn child. M signed & the police had me pack my things & leave.
Due to the effect I lost my job my rights my home my sanity & hope for DCFS.
After I also would come to discover that all suspicions of M using were right & would always notify the department, do there investigative work for them & uncover the truth, though they never gave my parental rights back, because the summary reports were riddled with lies to cover up the wrongs of there department to control this case. Basing all there petitions on presumptions & stories from before our first child's birth mixed in with M's (Now admitted) untruths as factual.
A week ago after our 3rd child ("I KNOW, I DON'T LEARN") & M's several attempts to cure her disease, DCFS came into our home with no warrant or cause & took our 5 day old infant (3 Daughters) without paper work or notification of where they were taking her, based on M being thrown out of treatment after she used. DCFS only has 1 dirty test from M going on 3 years, in August of 2010 they took our children from her after they caught wind of my being in the home though the courts restraining order was dropped a week after DCFS made Mn file it. & 2 months after the department had custody of our than 2 children (S & K), they ended up hospitalized for bone density, malnourishment, & depression. That was the second home they sent our children to at the first the found signs of abuse. HOW ARE WE ENDANGERING THEM MORE THAN DCFS ALREADY HAVE BASED ON ASSUMPTION, WHEN WE HAVE PROOF OF There's? & the investigator that came to my home after the birth of our third child was rude & used racist comments in front of my family, because I am African American & M is not..
Is purgery, endangering children, malpractice, mental anguish grounds for taking a Civil Court approach.